“Be the bigger person and blah blah blah — ” I have a problem with this ‘bigger person’ term. I’ll bet you’re wondering why.. after all you’re on this page because you clicked on it. 😉
So what’s the issue? Being the ‘bigger person’ makes it easier for everyone right? Well, yea, buuut intention is important, and being the ‘bigger person’ is egotistical. Like, really egotistical. I’ve found in most cases we only choose to ‘be the bigger person’ because our ego likes it. It makes us sound better to ourselves, higher than others. “Be the bigger person and let it go.”, “Be the bigger person and be respectful.”, “Be the bigger person and invite them anyway.”
Why not do all of those things just to be kind and compassionate? Why not just have kind hearted intentions because you can? Why not be as light filled (and emitting) as possible because you can and it is authentic, and genuinely good for everyone when you stay in your light? What is the intention when choosing to be the ‘bigger person’?
The ego likes the idea because it makes you sound better. The ego likes the idea because it makes us feel better about ourselves. The ego likes the idea because it is a round about way of being nice. I am sorry to inform you, this is a false sense of confidence. “If you want to feel good, do good.” Genuine, real good. Not round about, half-assed good because it’s good for you. I feel there is a layer missing, untapped. That layer is good intentions. Compassion, kindness, possibly community, collaboration, etc. I don’t get the feeling that being the ‘bigger person’ is fueled by any intentions other than the personal gain, “confidence” *ahem, ego* boost (inflated ego & genuine confidence are very different things).
Before we grow our ego and feed that beast, lets grow our compassion and feed the love + light. Stop being the ‘bigger person’, do your best to do good and be a kind, giving person. Work you light, not your ego. Nourish your light, not your ego.
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