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Trust In Your Guidance + Surrender The Rest

Trust In Your Guidance + Surrender The Rest

This week we’re going to be talking about my biggest lesson in life and spirituality so far, and that is deeply trusting AND then surrendering to the rest of the process. Let’s be real here, this is something all of us struggle with, probably on a weekly basis. Learning to trust in yourself is a somewhat easy process and practice compared to learning how to allow yourself surrender and well, allow.

The idea that sparked this article topic for me was a recent live I did with the incredible Lexi Schaffer, for her amazing and inspiring podcast Journey to Six Figures. You can listen to that episode here!

 

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You may hear many other spiritual teachers and leaders talk about trust and surrender often, and that is because these two practices of energy and mindset are really important pieces to a solid spiritual connection and foundation. Many people have lots of trust and ease trusting in themselves, while others have a great amount of trust and ease trusting in their Higher Power, and for others it can be hard to trust fully in either of these.

 

So in my personal experience, for a strong connection to yourself, your inner guidance, and your higher power + guidance you must be willing to trust in yourself and your inner guidance above anyone else’s opinion and then you’ve got to surrender it all, and allow it to be what it is supposed to. Intentions and goals while incredible habits, also need to be surrendered in a sense to manifest.

If you are clenching onto an outcome or result you will likely close yourself off to that very thing happening, while when you release it to it’s highest good you are more energetically open and receptive to it’s manifestation and divine alignment (even if it doesn’t look exactly how you wanted it to).

To be able to trust in yourself enough to follow your intuition and guidance is powerful in itself. When you can do that and then let it go to be what it will be and feel good about however it unfolds is where the deepest and most powerful magic has the space to come through.

Many of us can agree, that it is incredibly hard to get out of our own way enough to practice this, however that is only because we make it hard on ourselves. We were not made to experience hardship and upset, we were made to live life in a way of presence, experience, and growth.

We’ve got to get out of our own heads, and out of our own way just enough to let the magic that is more than available to us in. Because truly, we are the only thing’s that can get in our way. This requires a continuous practice of deeply trusting, and consistently surrendering.

 

I’d love to hear your questions about this topic so that I can answer them and expand on this message in the weekly FB Live show on Riley Reign. If you are ready to trust and surrender let us know how in the comment section below! And, if trust + surrender are your focus for 2018, I would love to have you as a student in my powerhouse course, Inspired Transformation. You can join the course waitlist just below this blog.

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

Transformation Inspirations : Roger Webb, Belief Breakthrough Guru

Transformation Inspirations : Roger Webb, Belief Breakthrough Guru

Welcome to this week’s Transformation Inspiration interview! This week I am SO excited to share with you the story + teachings of the incredibly powerful Belief Breakthrough Guru, Roger Webb. Roger has been a personal inspiration and mentor to me for the last year or so, and his BBT Live! event changed my life for the better by helping me to truly and wholeheartedly step into my power and OWN it.

Roger Webb  has been a Life/Wellness Coach and Sales & Management trainer for individuals & companies all over the globe for over 20 years.  He has worked with all levels of businesses, from small sales organizations to fortune 500 companies.  As a Master NLP Practitioner, Roger has a keen insight to the subconscious mind, and has a deep commitment to helping others break through their limiting beliefs, to achieve amazing success, both personally and professionally.  He has raised 5 amazing kids on his own, and is deeply committed to empowering others to live lives of passion, authenticity, optimal health, and love!

 

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In Roger’s own words, here is his story of transformation…

“My story… wow, that’s a potential novel (really)!  I am a single dad, and have spent the last 7 years raising 5 awesome kids, on my own. It’s taught me a lot about what maters in life.  I have been a life coach, for 20+ years, and the last 10 as a Master NLP Practitioner. I have a deep passion for helping people realize the Divine Truths about themselves and create a bigger, better, life of magic.  I’ve gone through massive transformation in my own life over the last 10 years, and find that my authenticity and passion can impact others, and empower them to dream and move!   My own growth, required the shedding of nearly everything I was taught and believed growing up, which forced me to recreate myself, from scratch.  I made many mistakes along the way, and each one of them taught me a more beautiful lesson than the one before.   My work as a Life Coach/Master NLP Practitioner over 20 years brought me to a deep passion around helping people break through their limiting beliefs.  I believe that limiting beliefs are the cause of most issues/challenges that people have.  With that said, I discovered something profound this past summer. My personal focus this year, has been around self love. I really wanted to fall in love with myself.  As I went through this process, I came to a realization that SELF LOVE is truly the root of it all. The more I fell in love with myself, the less power my limiting beliefs had over me, and the more I was able to see my weaknesses and challenges.  It’s been a pretty amazing journey!” ~ Roger Webb

Now let’s get into this inspirational interview!

 

Where were you at before you transformed your life? What was your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?

I am having a hard time remembering that man. I was raised in a pretty controlling religious upbringing, where I was told what and how to believe. In the end, very little of those beliefs stuck with me, as I shed them for a deeper and greater understanding of universal truths, and my own relationship with Divinity.  I was the opposite of what I am today. I was timid, quiet, reserved, and led a very mediocre life, which was just fine for me, back then.   I saw life through a VERY small lens. Everything was black or white. My view of life, the world, and humanity was very one sided. I had no clue what my role was on this Earth, and was ok with that. I was also living in a space in which it wasn’t ok to be authentic. No one talked about what was really going on inside of them. Especially if it was viewed as negative. I wore the same mask that most of those in my life wore.  Everything was ok, and God forbid we ever said otherwise.  That led me to living a life of being numb.  I knew about emotions, but I had no reference point for many of them. I knew sadness very well… but that’s about it.

During that period of your life, what did you wish for or dream of the most for yourself?

Nothing. Growing up, I was a big dreamer. I wanted it all.  However, I was taught by many people in my life that dreams were impractical. So in my mid twenties, I stopped dreaming.  Al I wanted to be was a good husband and a good father. Don’t get me wrong – there is nothing wrong with either of those and they are amazing things to aspire to… but I knew deep in my heart that I could and would be so much more!  Yet, every time I started dreaming, I was told by those in my life that it wasn’t “practical” so I stopped.   I always knew I’d be a hell of a dad, and I am… But when I regained my ability to dream, and my passion and vest for having a bigger, better, greater life, I realized that a BIG part of me being an amazing dad, was to show my kids the truth about life… The truth that ANYTHING is within their reach!  I am dreaming again, and I’m seeing my kids starting to dream too!

When your life began to change, what cause the shift(s) for you?

I had a massive crisis of faith and personal identity. Everything I had been raised believing, crumbled around me. I had two choices, lie under the rubble, or or rise up and build something new! I realized that at that moment, I had an opportunity to completely recreate my life as I wanted it to be! It has been the most difficult & painful experience to date, but it has brought me to an immensely beautiful place in my life!
What did your transformation look like for you, and how did the experience feel?
For me, it looked like shedding who I was, to become who I knew I could become. A true metamorphosis.  There are very few things about me now that are a part of that guy. As I think about it… I know that who I am now, was in there all along… It just took a jackhammer, a blowtorch, and a few cases of C4, to get myself out of that prison.   I started with a few personal development seminars, back in 1997. The walls started crumbling, and I couldn’t stop. I became obsessed with discovering who I really am.   As I mentioned earlier, there was a lot of pain involved. IT wasn’t always fun… but it was ALWAYS worth it, and each time I shed another layer, I felt lighter, and happier!
What practice, tool, or mindset has been the most meaningful and impactful for you along your journey?
For me, it’s been a realization and understanding, that I can’t do it ALL at once. I tried for a long time and felt like a failure often. So, my practice now, consists of the following:  1, Work hard to be conscious of every moment. The words I say, the thoughts I think, and the actions I take. Am I doing them consciously?  2.  Do SOMETHING every day towards bettering myself. Even if it’s tiny… Just one thing every day. If I can go to bed, knowing I did something to improve, I’ve won.   3. Be gentle on myself.   4. Take care of my body.   5. Focus on Love, Peace, and Joy.  Anything that doesn’t fit in these three things, or that takes away from them, doesn’t get to take up space in my life.
 

Having gone through the transformation that you have now, what would you say to your past self?

Live your life with passion, authenticity, and love. At all costs. Don’t listen to anything or anyone who distracts you from that path.  ALWAYS remember your own Divinity.  There is power there that you will never fully be able to comprehend!   And I LOVE YOU!
Where is your life now? What is your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?
I’m still on the path.  I have amazing days and I have rough days. However, the rough days now, serve as lessons, so I can rise higher. I’m at peace. Those are words I could never say for many years.  I am truly living my mission, to Live life with passion, authenticity, and love, by walking my talk. That last part is the kicker sometimes. When I’m walking the talk, all of life is great… When I’m not, it’s a good barometer for me that I am out of sync with my mission, and I have work to do.  I feel a constant vibration in my life now. A vibration of growth, of understanding, of joy, and of adventure. Life is a fucking roller coaster. It’s my choice on whether or not I am going to enjoy the ride, (even the scary parts that I don’t like) or chicken out!
Roger Webb is an amazing human and his story is just as amazing and inspirational as well. I am so grateful not only that Roger is in my life but that he lives his life from leadership and open heartedness and is so willing to show up for the betterment of everyone.  l am so proud + grateful to be able to feature him and his work here in the Transformation Inspirations series. If you’d like to learn more from Roger and get more familiar with his work you can do so here.

Transformation Inspirations : Keith McCoy, Author of Choose Different

Transformation Inspirations : Keith McCoy, Author of Choose Different

I am so fucking excited and honored to share today’s Transformation Inspiration interview with you, because today’s feature is so inspiring to me. Perhaps I’m a little biased, as the bad-ass you’re about to meet is my own dad, but I know that even without my bias this man is inspiring many more than he knows and that ripple effect will only continue to grow.

Keith McCoy is a husband, a father and an entrepreneur currently living in Colorado raising his family while growing a wellness business with his wife. Driven by the ideals of freedom, empowerment and radical accountability intermixed with a passion to serve whenever and wherever the need arises, his book, Choose Different is just one of many ways to increase an ever-growing global ripple.

For inquiries or speaking engagements please email choosedifferent@essentialdharma.com

 

Transformation Inspirations interview with Keith McCoy, from the Spirit & Soul blog
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Below, you’ll find a bit of Keith’s story and where he is now written in his own words, from an excerpt of his brand new book (available now), Choose Different, and then we’ll get into this awesome interview.

 

“My intention with this book is to bring to light for you what I believe to be one of the most important, if not the most important, principles that defines how I move about my days, weeks and life now. It is to share with you how I was able to come from the life described above and live this – I have been married to the same amazing woman for 20 years. We have 7 (soon to be 8) beautiful kids together. Even though I tried my damnedest in the beginning to sabotage this relationship, and I certainly caused her some pain, she stuck by me. If not for her I do not know where I would be today. I will always maintain that she was the first to teach me that I deserved to be loved unconditionally. She taught me that I needed to love myself. Because of that I learned somewhere along the line that I had to take responsibility for me; for who I was and for the consequences of my actions.

I was forced to see the ripple effect my actions would cause and to hold myself accountable to those ripples. The reality is that in every single thing we do, consciously or otherwise, we leave a mark, there is a cause and an effect. In everything we do, we have a choice. We may often feel like we don’t. And as we will discuss again, feelings aren’t facts. I recently heard a quote that aligns perfectly with this concept – Reality is often harsh, but always fair. So when you step back and look at the reality of your life, if you truly want clarity, you must remove the emotion and see the situation for what it is: The result of your choices. Each choice has a ripple, a butterfly effect, that either affects us, and those around us, in a detrimental way or in a way that benefits us. We cannot get away from this universal truth. And the sooner you can realize, understand and truly appreciate that you are in control of your decisions, and that ultimately the choices you make are the most important thing in how you live your life, the sooner you can begin to live your life by design.” – Keith McCoy, author of Choose Different

 

Now, let’s get into this super special edition of Transformation Inspirations and get on with the interview bit, shall we?

 

 

Where were you at before you transformed your life? What was your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?


I was angry and lost. Broke and living in a victim mentality. My marriage was on the rocks and my relationship with my kids was not a good one.

 

During that period of your life, what did you wish for or dream of the most for yourself?

I didn’t dream or wish for anything. I didn’t believe that was really possible.

 

When your life began to change, what cause the shift(s) for you?

I realized that if I didn’t make a change I would lose my kids. I would most likely end up alone. I decided that radical change needed to be made immediately and so I chose to stop drinking and to turn inward. To take full responsibility of my actions and to not blame anyone else.

 

What did your transformation look like for you, and how did the experience feel?

I dove into Eastern Philosophy. I read Dharma Punx by Noah Levine and Awakening the Buddha Within by Lama Surya Das. In the beginning I was more angry and confused because i only realized how asleep I had been and how asleep most of the rest of us are. In my attempts to find center I only got deeper into frustration. It took a while for me to swing back and realize that the only journey I need to be concerned with is my own. And that how aware or unaware anyone else was or wasn’t really wasn’t my concern.

 

What practice, tool, or mindset has been the most meaningful and impactful for you along your journey?

Radical Accountability. I am the product of my choices and exactly where I choose to be. Sometimes that is an unconscious choice, or there are unintended consequences of the choices I make. But they are mine and I embrace them. The wins or the lessons, whatever the result.

 

Having gone through the transformation that you have now, what would you say to your past self?

Honestly? I wouldn’t talk to my old self. I have often said that 2017 me and 2005 me would not be friends. But given the opportunity to do so I would tell him to read Choose Different and let that stand on its own.

 

Where is your life now? What is your experience, emotional state, and perspective like? 

I live a very fulfilled life. I still have unachieved business goals and things I want to do but I have clarity in how to get them and understanding that they will come when they’re supposed to and when I have learned the lessons I need to learn that will make me the person who can handle the abundance I am attracting. I have no true complaints and have learned, and still practice improving, loving what is and becoming the best version of myself possible.

 

 

Aside from my immense gratitude for my Dad, he is a living, breathing, legacy leading example of what it means to show up, choose different, and lead both the life you want to and a life that is continuously giving. If you look at your life and the state of things surrounding you and think, “I couldn’t change this if I tried, so why even try.” I hope that you can look at my dad and all of the incredible people featured in this series and know that you can Choose Different. Any moment in time can be your quantum moment. All you’ve got to do is choose. 

 

To purchase Choose Different, follow this link!

 

 

 

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

 

Spirituality is about Realness

Spirituality is about Realness

I set out this month to write and publish a blog everyday. I had no expectation, and really just wanted to challenge myself, see what the Universe would match that energy and intention with, and see if any analytics changed in any kind of way. As you may have noticed, the last 3 days I haven’t posted a blog. Scandalous, I know.

If you are a creative of any kind, you know how difficult it can be to force the creation of something, let alone something of quality. As much as this month is about a quantity of blogs, I will not write unless I feel that a message, lesson, or tool is one of quality and universal relevance. So, for the last 3 days I didn’t write or publish anything. I wasn’t in a place to focus into the work I do in the way I needed to, and as I wrote previously this month about honoring ones process I needed to honor where I was. And instead of putting out sub-par content (not to mention life guidance), I held space for when I could focus.

 

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Because here is the thing about spirituality, it’s not about being the best, the most enlightened, or being righteous. Spirituality is about realness. For example, this week I had to be real with myself and to be in flow rather than force, I needed to not write or post a blog for a few days. To not burn myself out, I had to get real. In this instance, real meant rest, trusting in my process, and leaning into the love that I would open more space for.

Spirituality is not about doing all of the yoga, meditating, or reading of books about the Universe, Source, or God. It means being connected, and trusting that connection. Perhaps for you that aligns with yoga, meditation, or learning. But here’s the catch my soul-siblings, if you do all of the spiritual activities only for face value or the image of being a vibrant little light worker, that isn’t real, and you will likely soon learn that through experience.

 

Being spiritually connected + expressive means being 100% real and authentic, not to be confused for masking your human experience realness (yes, the unpretty bits, especially the unpretty bits) with ‘love + light’. Love + light without action to actualise the intention is nothing. Often the most spiritual thing you can do, is to be in your mess. Not to dwell in it or attach yourself to it, but to be with it, and to be open to what it has to offer you.

This realness includes letting go of that which does not serve you, not to be confused with suppressing or ignoring the unpretty bits of life because they “aren’t pretty” and “therefore don’t serve you”. This journey of getting real leads to letting go of what doesn’t serve your highest good, or the highest good of those around you. For example, me writing and publishing less than raw and universally true content wouldn’t serve me, it would have burnt me out. And it wouldn’t serve you, because it wouldn’t have been as good as it needed to be. It was not of highest good, so I let it go.

Continuing to let go of what doesn’t serve the highest good of all will lead you to some pretty epic realisations. Like, “Hey, my judgement is a total waste of energy and space that could be used for way better things.”, “Wow, these assumptions I make only cause pain and/or destruction.”, “Holy f*uck, when I am inauthentic, I am disabling myself and everyone around me from experiencing me in my truth and my magic.”

So, yes, as you continue to get real with yourself and get more connected to your Source, you are lead to love and light and blessings. That does not veto you from having to experience some unpleasant to learn the lessons you are here for. However, it will bring you understanding, vastly simple and powerful action, and universal compassion. Because when you get far enough with the healing and getting real, everything will lead back to love, compassion, and understanding.

 

I would love to hear how this article has helped shift your perspective of spirituality, so please sound off in the comments below and let’s get some juicy conversation started!

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

 

 

 

How to Embrace Every Life Experience with Love

How to Embrace Every Life Experience with Love

Life can be kind of crazy sometimes. The ebb and flow, peaks and valleys, dancing with Life, climbing mountains, falling, and sometimes just sitting still. It can be hard to know what all of it means, if it means anything at all. And it can be difficult to navigate how to make things better when they are feeling less than great. Still, hindsight being 20/20 there is so much more beauty and magic in life than there is pain or darkness. Is there a way to love both the light and dark parts of life, though? And if so, what does that even look like?

When you can understand why the specific things that are occurring in your life are occurring, you can find peace within the process. It is all in your understanding. Perhaps the only understanding that you will need is that everything happens for a reason, and that there is a lesson to be learned from this experience, negative or positive. Other times the understanding you will need will take a little bit more discovery and exploration for your own answers. This shift in perspective will help to soften the darker of experiences in life.

 

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Once you can find a headspace and heartspace of peace, you can then move into the fun stuff. The part where loving every experience comes into play. It isn’t hard to love the beautiful bits of life, and it isn’t hard to sometimes be really grateful for them either. To intentionally hold a space of deep and consistent gratitude takes a little bit more effort. Once you achieve mastery of this practice though, your highs will feel so much higher, and that energy will manifest more positivity.

To do a little bit more intentional work, you can hold a deeply rooted knowing that the negative experiences of life hold just as much magic and light, because through the transformation those tough experiences will reward you with wisdom and trust in the process. If you let them, that is. You see, if you can hold a knowing and gratitude for the universal truth that is everything happens for a reason, and if you can ground into that you can begin to fall in love with even the roughest of chapters of your life.

It is not the easiest practice, but it is one that will gift you with feelings of safety, support, and purpose. You will no longer feel lost and broken in your periods of darkness, but rather you will feel inspired and empowered even when things are hard to sort out. You will find a feeling of peace and contentment with your growth process, and from that place you can bring your own light to whatever the negative situation may be.

While it isn’t fun to say, our darkest moments in life tend to be our most formative, no matter our age. So if you can find gratitude and knowing in the fact that you are exactly where you need to be so that you may reach your highest potential. You can find an underlying love for even the most uncomfortable and unwanted experiences. You can find a power in that space to bring forth light and wisdom that will make the journey a little bit more bearable. There you can embrace any experience that comes your way with a loving understanding, confidence and maybe even joy.

 

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign