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Transformation Inspirations : Stepanka Hojdova

Transformation Inspirations : Stepanka Hojdova

I am so excited to feature Stepanka + her story this week on Transformation Inspirations!

Stepanka is the Women’s Talks founder. The moments of her own healing, coaching, and seeking of motivation inspired her to create a safe space for healing through sharing where you can clarify the right direction of your personal development and find energy to fulfill your dreams.

 

Transformation Inspirations Interview with Stepanka Hojdova from the Spirit & Soul blog
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In her own words, this is the story of Stepanka’s transformation…

 

“As a child I have seen a lots of violence and addictions around. And as all kids do I perceived it as a reality. The more pressure was put on me, the more introverted and windrow I was. My grandfather was pedophile and alcoholic. My father was a strong man, who was using an alternative methods such as yoga, meditation and Chinese medicine to heal himself. It was in times when these tools were not as popular as they are now. He was fighting for what is right inside of himself but the systems inputs were still strong and he was using strong physical punishments on me and my brother. When I was 18 I started to listen to my intuition and moved to New Zealand. I went through my own personal struggles. Ups and downs, tiring to find the reason why am I here. I got married and had my baby girl at the age of 23. I knew it will be turn over in my life and it was. When she was two years old, and we started to have interaction as two human beings I have faced what my father had to face. I was using similar up bringing methods as my parents did. One part of me wanted to stop and another was like auto pilot. That was the time, when I started to pray for the first time. I asked for help and  lead to change. Everything started to change.

I found the book You Can Heal Your Life written by Louis L. Hay. For one year and a half I was on daily basis doing all the exercises that were written in that book. I went deeper and deeper and when I felt it is time to ask for another guidance I have found therapy. I have healed the deepest traumas and felt it is time to move forward. That was time when coaching entered into my life and I have started to focus more on the future than on the past.  While I was going through the coaching training, I have fully forgive my father. I took him to my garden, looked into his eyes and told him I forgive him. He started to cry and asked for forgiveness. We have met in some amazing place where we both made decision to let the past go and took full responsibility for our life and the actions we take in our life. From that moment I have started to follow my own path of freedom and I have started to work hard on to build my life. I keep continuing to study, I create projects like www.womens-talks.com which motto is: Openness and sharing heals.” ~ Stepanka Hjodova

Now let’s get into Stepanka’s insightful + compassionate interview…

 

Where were you at before you transformed your life? What was your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?

I was constantly lost and I was experiencing big ups and downs. Confusion was present all the time. Deep inside I was craving for love, but on the outside I was trying to fit in and be accepted. I was suppressing emotions. From my perspective all the so called negative emotions was fault of people around. I didn’t understand that I have to focus on myself and change my own feelings. True forgiveness and compassion. I was blaming the whole world for my bad state. I thought when I lose weight or in any other way look more beautiful, as the magazine says, I will gain more love and acceptance. Also after the transformation I have gained some inner peace and I thought this is how it is going to be forever. I was happy in that state, I have never experienced it before. What was surprise to me was the strong energy that came afterwards. It took me awhile to understand that it is passion. That it is the creative energy I need to use for sharing my gifts with others. For some time I was channelling it as aggression because I had no idea what is going on. I was craving my peace back and I thought I did something wrong. I was afraid that I am going back and that my personal development has failed 🙂 Just when I relaxed and found the courage to start some work based on my visions and ideas that excites me, I have realised that the strong energy is not step back but forward. Recently I have made an interview with Buddhist nun Emma Slade/ Pema Deki and she brought even more clarity into what is happening to me and I suppose many other who do yoga and meditation to again some peace and clarity. That inner peace is great and is necessary for to deal with some traumas, and gain some clarity about what is our next steps, but the point is the life energy what comes after that. That inner peace is just one stage on the spiritual path. The next one is the force that drives us to create amazing things in this world such as creating healing programs for others, or some art or whatever your gifts are. This is a big turning point for me right now. When we manage that, another level of clarity with joy appears.

 

During that period of your life, what did you wish for or dream of the most for yourself?

 

At the beginning it was simply to survive. I was facing total loss of one self. I was imagining myself as dead which was the only way I gained some inner peace. At that moment I knew I have to do something, learn something and change to live. I was fighting for my life. It took me 6 months daily practice to come to at least one day per week to feel o.k. to feel inner peace and to be free of pain. Than it quickly became two days and so on. So for me it was inner peace and clarity. I wanted to be able to give my children love without violence and fear. Back than I had really day by day goals. I wanted to expand the inner peace just for one more day of the week. I have never went for medication as I felt I would work it out myself. I felt it was important to build my own strategy so it stays life long. So love, peace, clarity.

 

When your life began to change, what caused the shift(s) for you?

I hope I am still at the beginning 🙂 That there is way more for me to unfold 🙂 But the milestones would be the birth of my daughter. The beginning of interaction with her. The forgiveness ritual with my father. That was a strong shift as it was for the first time in my life when I did something with all my heart. With all my being I wanted to leave the hate, blame, pain and just feel love towards him and myself. It took a lot of exercises to be able to feel again. Lots of crying and releasing aggression before the forgiveness moment. Also going for the coaching training was a big shift, because I did for the first time in my life what felt right for me. I have overcome my fear of people and I have met a lots of amazing friends with who I am in touch till now. All those were big moments for me. To step out just with who I am really, loving, happy, sometimes angry, sometimes sad me who is o.k. for being myself.

 

What did your transformation look like for you, and how did the experience feel? 

For me it was like being reborn. I literally felt like some part of me is dying and I have to build all new of myself. It was scary as I had no idea where to start or what to do. I come from a really small city in Czech republic where you don’t have access to some therapy community. So I just went on my knees and started to ask for help. I was in chaos but something led me to find psychology help in other bigger city. So I made appointment and went there. After I told what is going on to the lady, she offered me medication. I said no thank you and left. But what I remembered was a book she proposed me to read. I was so stressed that I couldn’t remember the right name of the book. I started to tell the lady in book store some words that came on my mind like love and so on and she gave me the You Can Heal Your Life book. I suppose it was my intuition, God, universe and my determination to change .. that led me in that time of chaos. After some time of work with the book I was strong enough to study more about what is the difference between psychology and psychotherapy and I was able to find a man who was trained in both of them. I was travelling an hour by car to come to his sessions. So it looked like reborn to me and felt like chaos with glimpses of clarity about what is the next right step to do.

 

What practice, tool, or mindset has been the most meaningful and impactful for you along your journey?

It has been changing during time. My transformation started when I was 25 and as I said at the beginning it was the decision of going on my knees and asking for help. I guess I have opened myself to the fact that there is some other, more conscious energy that can lead me through my healing process. The big determination to change was another huge step for me. I have stopped to focus on others and I started to focus on myself. The book from Louise L. Hay and its exercises helped me with that. Later it was the support of the therapist which lasted for two years. When the deepest healing process was done, it was life coaching that helped me to learn how to work with the new energy I have gained. I was learning how to set up goals and how to create action steps. I have learned how to focus on future rather than past. So it is combination of tools for me. Self help practice, therapy, coaching. All of that has helped me to trust my self and my own intuition, guidance. Also it helped me to learn how to deal with challenges we all keep facing in our life. But still, as I said I am on my path and I believe I will learn more and experience more. This is just one part of the journey.

 

Having gone through the transformation that you have now, what would you say to your past self?

Everything is o.k.

 

Where is your life now? What is your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?

I am going through transformation right now. I am learning effectively direct the creative energy to projects that are useful for others but for me as well. It is challenging as I am not just having interviews with other people but I am being invited for interviews my self. It is a new position for me and I am learning to enjoy going out there and shine 🙂 I am by nature introverted person, but as I am at the face of expansion I am happy to welcome the extroverted part of me right now. I am meeting a lots of great inspiring people right now and sometimes it might be overwhelming. As with any new project and new position you put yourself into, it brings challenges, emotional ups and downs, fears and so on. It might be a bit pressure at times not just on me but on the whole family. On the other hand this time I know what is happening to me, and I just keep swimming with the peace in my heart that everything will fall into its palace. I will become more comfortable every time I stand in front of camera and every time I meet another amazing soul. I see myself like someone who is finalizing this healing journey I have started 6 years ago. When I do step out fully and completely as ME, on every level of life. Private and public. And it all is reflected on the work I do. Soon the emotional state will settle and I will see what is there for me next.

 

 

You guys! Stepanka is such a bright light! I love the subtle reminder that is strung within this interview as well: the reminder that the transformation doesn’t quite ever end. There is always more growing, expanding, and learning to be done if you are willing!

 

 

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

Present Yourself Like the Sun // A Mantra Manifesto

Present Yourself Like the Sun // A Mantra Manifesto

Present yourself like the sun
ever present

quiet when the time is right
bright when it is time to work your light

Radiant
Warm
Encompassing
Encouraging
Nurturing
Bursting yet whole
Expansive from within

Always providing light, despite sometimes being in the dark yourself
Something to rely on, not to be taken for granted
One + Only
Divinely placed within your surroundings

 

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

 

If Mindfulness Is Your New Years Resolution: A Bulletproof Guide To Keeping Your Practice Strong

If Mindfulness Is Your New Years Resolution: A Bulletproof Guide To Keeping Your Practice Strong

If Mindfulness is Your New Years Resolution: A Bulletproof Guide to Keeping Your Practice Strong from the Spirit & Soul Blog

 

It’s resolution season! A personal favorite season of mine is the New Year’s season, and I am here to help this year if one of your goals/resolutions is to begin a Mindfulness practice. I’ve created a bulletproof reference guide for starting your practice with exploration and keeping your practice strong in the long run with a few powerful (and personal favorite) tools! With helpful knowledge packed books that aren’t overwhelming in the slightest, easy to use apps to explore what you want your practice to consist of and feel like, and a simple list of important principles to remember when testing the waters and beginning to grow your practice.

 

Look into these books ~

-Miracles Now, Gabrielle Bernstein

“Let’s be real for a sec. Most of us don’t have time for an hour of yoga or 30 minutes of meditation every day. We’re overwhelmed as it is. Our spiritual practice shouldn’t add to that.

That’s why I’ve handpicked 108 simple techniques to combat our most common problems—stress, burnout, frustration, jealousy, resentment. The stuff we have to deal with on a daily basis. This book is designed so that you can achieve peace and experience miracles now.

Inspired by some of the greatest spiritual teachings, these practical, moment-to-moment tools will help you eliminate blocks and live with more ease. They’re powerful, life-changing meditations and principles, modernized and broken down into easy-to-digest techniques to fit your lifestyle.

Throughout the book, I share principles from both A Course in Miracles and Kundalini yoga and meditation. These tools can help you find your connection to your inner strength. When you practice these techniques, fear will melt away, inspiration will spring up, and a sense of peace will set in.” Author Gabrielle Bernstein on what Miracles Now is for.

 

This is a personal favorite book of mine to use when I don’t know what to use. I flip to a page (usually get a good reality check of an ass kicking) and use the tool provided on the random page I turned to. This one is so filled with knowledge and powerful tools that work! I would recommend it to anyone looking to learn more about mindfulness as well as personal growth.

-The Desire Map, Danielle Laporte

Your bucket list. Quarterly objectives. Strategic plans. Big dreams. Goals. Lots of goals and plans to achieve those goals—no matter what. Except …

You’re not chasing the goal itself, you’re actually chasing the feeling that you hope achieving that goal will give you.

Which means we have the procedures of achievement upside down. We go after the stuff we want to have, get, or accomplish, and we hope that we’ll be fulfilled when we get there. It’s backwards. And it’s burning us out.

So what if you first got clear on how you actually wanted to feel in your life, and then created some “Goals with Soul”?”” -An excerpt from Amazon.com of what The Desire Map is about.

I personally own this book as well. Who doesn’t want mindful and intentional goals? This one is perfect to accompany and amplify your New Year’s intentions.

-The Little Book of Mindfulness, Patricia Collard

Dr Patrizia Collard is a psychotherapist, mindfulness teacher, stress management consultant and lecturer in psychotherapy at the University of East London. Her books include Journey into Mindfulness, Mindfulness-based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Dummies and Awakening the Compassionate Mind (2014).

 

Dr Collard’s wide range of approaches and methodologies includes mindfulness-based cognitive behavioral therapy, rational emotive behavior therapy, core energy management, existential therapy, drama therapy, yoga and meditation, relaxation, and self-hypnosis.” – From Amazon.com about the author.

If you just don’t know where to start, and want to start small and explore what mindfulness consists of and what a mindfulness practice may look like for you. This book is the perfect taste of what mindfulness is.

 

Helpful Apps ~

Headspace-

Headspace is an incredibly simple meditation app that guides you through how to meditate, different modes of meditation, and how meditation affects the brain. Perfect for the beginner or the expert — and it’s FREE to start!

 

Truthbomb, by Danielle Laporte-

Looking for a sign from the universe, a little oracle backup? Use the random pop up feature to see if a #Truthbomb has the answer you need. It’s all divine. Comes with a library of over 300 #Truthbombs, and you’ll get a new #Truthbomb every weekday on your phone. And, sharing is easy breezy. You can text, Pin and post t’bombs everywhere.” – About the app from daniellelaporte.com

 

I love this app. It gives the most divinely perfect timed truthbombs just when I need them and it keeps me aware of how I am feeling and being, and how I can be better at it all. This one is also free!

The Now –

Daily mindfulness moments to help you to pause, reflect, and refocus on the present moment. Beautiful imagery and personally curated content. Downloaded over 100k times with a lifetime 4.6 star rating. Helping people live more mindfully since 2010!” – Description of the app from apple.com


I’ve been playing around with this app for the last few months and I’ve got to say I am obsessed! It is impeccably simple and clean and beautifully orchestrated. I highly recommend turning on the notifications to get unexpected breaths of fresh air to pull you back into the present moment each day throughout the day. This app is also free!

 

 

Important Things To Know ~

  1. It is a practice for a reason – It will not be perfect, and the only constant is change. Allow yourself space to play and learn and be open and flexible with your practice. What it is and what it becomes will always be changing to help you grow further.  
  2. Mindfulness can be different than you imagined or expected – And that is okay! Again, be open, be gentle with yourself, and just see where the ride takes you. It is beyond worth it along the journey as you keep working. Letting go of comparison to a friend or relative’s experiences and practices is super important too.
  3. Your practice will grow and deepen gradually – Let it be natural. Do not force things, do not rush things. Your persistence will create the understanding and awareness you need to grow and deepen as you learn and refine your practices.



I wish you the most luck and success on your journey and I hope the information provided here today can carry you along your journey as smoothly as possible!
Happy growing & learning!

Namaste
~Riley Reign

 

Why Intention Should Be Your Focus This New Years

Why Intention Should Be Your Focus This New Years

New Years is undoubtedly my favorite time of the year and it breaks my heart to see so many lovely people fail themselves and their goals, so this year I invite you to begin your goals in a different way than before — with Intention. Intention is something I see lacking in our culture often. As a culture of nice things, materialism, and being mostly inauthentic I feel like these are the reasons we fail our own goals and resolutions. Our goals and resolutions often do not even resonate with us. They often don’t have clarity.

So I invite you to look at the resolutions you think you’ll be making this year, and look at why you are making them. Truly, deeply, why are you making these resolutions? What do they serve? Why do you want these things to realize into your life? And then ask yourself the kicker, do these things truly, deeply align with me and my feelings?

Why Intention Should Be Your Focus This New Years

 

Some things may completely align for you, and some might not. This is where Intention comes into play. The things that align and feel right likely have clear and aligned intentions, while the other goals and resolutions will not. When one begins something with clear concise intentions, they are beginning with power.

When your focus is on intention more than it is on the outcome, there is deep clarity that stems from that focus. And when one can keep their focus on their intentions rather than a possible negativity that may be arising within a goal’s realizing, that persons focus on their intentions can consistently inspire them and  motivate them by purpose, rather than the material thing itself.

Intention is such a simple perspective switch that can invoke so much power into a manifestation or realization of something. That little switch in perspective can make or break how smooth and sweet or rough and sweaty the journey is of creating and achieving something. Danielle Laporte’s book The Desire Map is a fabulous resource and tool for any who need help setting intentional and aligned goals/resolutions.

Happy Intentional goal setting!
Namaste
~Riley Reign