For the entire month of August I am publishing a brand new blog every single day, and you may have noticed that today’s blog went live a little bit later than most of my blogs thus far. This is because I had to honor my own process – and that’s exactly what todays blog is going to be about.
In our society we are not very kind to ourselves, and we tend to not give ourselves enough room to fully experience our lives. Including the less than pretty parts of it. We can live so much more fully, however, if we allow ourselves the space we need to fully honor where we are. That doesn’t mean when we come face to face with pain, emotion, or change, that we cling to it like our lives depend on it. It means that when we come face to face with pain, emotion, or change, that we allow ourselves the space to feel it, allow it to move through us, and we allow ourselves to experience our own process.
There is divine timing for everything in Life. What we often fail to see is that sometimes it is our divine timing to experience some less than magical feelings and experiences. Sometimes, the only thing Life expects from us, is for us to sit with wherever we are + whatever we are feeling. Not dwelling in it, but being with it.
Often times when I take on a new mentoring client, for a single session or a long-term mentorship, their first session ends up needing to be rescheduled for a later date. I find that this is nearly always because a client needs to learn from experience about their own divine timing, and they need to learn how to honor their own process before we begin working together to make the shifts they desire within their lives. Not only does this help them grow gentler with themselves and their experiences, it frees them from the expectation they hold on themselves so that they can be more receptive to the guidance and work that is offered to them in a mentoring session.
As much as a client may be sorry about rescheduling, I am never upset about it. I trust in their divine timing for being able to receive the guidance they need. I trust in their divine timing to be open to that guidance so that they can receive it. I trust in their process, and I want them to honor that just as deeply as they want to honor my time + energy with a mentoring session.
When we can experience the blessing of a magical mess that life is more fully, we can learn and grow with more strength and wisdom to carry us.
I promised to publish a blog everyday in the month of August, and I am. Yesterday, when I would have written this blog, I needed to breathe. I needed to be alone, to sit with where I was for a bit, and to just be there. Learning how to be in that space and allow those feelings to move through you rather than break you is a huge gift in itself.
How will you honor your process today? I’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas in the comment section below.
Why Exploring Your Shadow Is Necessary + How You Can Do It
What would you think if I told you that your Shadow(s) are one of your greatest gifts in life? If you think that statement is crazy, I would like to prove you wrong in this blog. I believe our society has become too afraid of our own pains and darknesses in life, when if we would look at them with the right perception we would see that these pains, darknesses, and shadows are merely abundant opportunities waiting on us to play.
Yes, I said play. Because you can definitely play in darkness. It may not be as pleasant as playing in light may feel, however you can bring the intention of play into your darkness and experience a much different process of growth and expansion. Which is exactly what this post is going to be about. Our shadow(s), darkness, and pain(s), are our biggest gifts in life because they are opportunities for serious expansion and growth.
Also, healing cannot occur unless we work with (notice: not sit with/in) our shadow. You cannot live in the light all of the time and be a vibrant healed butterfly every moment of your life. Because this is Life. We have to work with our pains and shadows in certain spaces in our lives because it is time for us to grow, evolve, and expand into our next version of vibrancy and authenticity.
There is a certain amount of life that we have to spend working with our darkness and doing the work we need to do to heal, so that we can be the vibrant healed butterflies that we want to be as much as possible. Our darkness + our shadow selves are deeply valuable gifts in life, when we allow them to be. These experiences, though unpleasant, teach us about the light we seek and how to become it.
So the next question becomes, how can we explore our shadows, darkness, and pains with the least bit of upset as possible? It’s not an easy practice, but it is one of the most powerful in my experience. I have personally found that it starts with a foundation of understanding and awareness. Before you even intentionally work with your shadow, you have to have an awareness that the outcome will be for your highest good, and the only thing that can come from moving through your darkness will be even more light.
You have to understand that everything happens for a reason, and everything happens in divine timing. So if something is coming up for you with your shadow, darkness, or pain, this is a sign that it is time to explore, heal, and grow from whatever is showing up for you to heal for yourself. You will never leave this work without having learned a new lesson, and if you think you did the work but don’t have a lesson as a souvenier, then you’re not done doing the work. There is a brilliant video about this very thing from the equally brilliant Glennon Doyle Melton that you can watch below (it’s a longer one, so make some coffee or tea and take the time to enjoy it, let it speak to your soul and teach you).
I invite you today to see your shadows as opportunities. Pick one, and gently begin to work with it. Bring your light along with you and it won’t feel so dark, scary, or lonely. You choose your destiny, but if you want to get there you have to heal some things along the way. And along that journey know that you are loved and supported in every way.
Meet Riley Reign, curator of The Spirit & Soul Blog
Today was a rough one in trying to find a blog topic, in fact, as I type this very blog is is 1:00 am. I went into my meditative space and asked what I could write today, and I was told to tell you more about my story & who I am. As much as I want to say, “Oh I don’t want to come off conceited here”, which I truly do not want to do, I must say I have never spoken about myself in this way very much in real life, let alone online, and so I am interested to see what happens with this guidance, and to see what comes of it. Because let’s be honest, the Work With Me page only scratches the surface (it was written too long ago), and many of you know very little of the (currently) 19 year old trying to change the world from a computer.
So… Hi, I am Riley Reign. Welcome to the Spirit & Soul community!
I am a (currently) 19 year old woman, working to change the world from my computer. I have a deep calling to inspire + empower as many people on this planet as I can in this lifetime, and for whatever reason that decided to manifest as this blog you’re reading on here. I have been raised in a very personal growth centered, spiritually and emotionally open home with an incredible family. I am the oldest of 7 children (all directly related, incase you were curious, because many people are), and while this is true to my life, it is a small piece of what I came here for.
My grandfather taught people how to walk on hot coals, my mother learned and did it when she was young. My family has been meditating and listening to Wayne Dyer for as long as I can remember. There has always been a part of me that has known I would walk the path I am on now in some way. I remember being about 7 or 8 watching a PBS recording of Wayne Dyer teaching and thinking to myself, “I could do that”, while also thinking, “This is dumb – what is he even talking about right now”. What a cute little 8 year old Ego. I remember writing short stories as a tween, very irrelevant ones, but I knew how to write with such ease. I have since learned what a gift that is.
At 16 my family moved states, and houses for the first time I would be able to really remember, and I felt like I was being stripped of everything I knew. What a cute teenage problem to have! In a physical way, you could say that was true. But what really happened over the course of the next few years turned out to be that I was instead coming home to everything I had wished for, consciously and subconsciously. I listened to the song ‘Awake My Soul’ from Mumford & Sons nearly every night, and little did I know that is what I manifested for myself (Thank you, Universe!).
I was given the space to re-learn who I was, and what I was truly made of. Skip through some concealed depression, feeling very stuck and angsty about it, and some soul searching and we cut to the day that I sat watching Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday when the thought that I had years ago resurfaced, “I could do that.”
“Maybe I should start a blog? I can teach about spirituality. Actually, I could really kick ass at this blogging thing.” And 2 days later I had a blog. This very blog you’re reading now. I took 2 months to ‘perfect’ the website and write some ‘content’ and I launched Spirit & Soul. This is the very beginning my friends. Now I have published over 200 blogs on this site and others, I have began mentoring (another coming home to my truth story for another time), and I am in the beginning stages of co-creating a KICK. ASS. 6 week course that will launch the beginning of 2018. I do not have a job, and haven’t since I was 16. While I don’t really make much blogging, I know this is where I am supposed to be, and nearly 2 years in I am just at the beginning of this wonderful crazy journey – that beginning of 2018 stuff is going to crack things open big time.
Here is what I have learned so far:
1) Follow the whispers.
I know now after following the next steps that have been put in front of me, that I am supposed to be right here doing this in the exact way that I am. As much as I have a big why – to shift the consciousness of the world into a better place – my little why is this: I am supposed to be doing this.
2) Trust in the most painful things you go through, because they are your deepest gems.
I thought moving away from my friends and what we were doing at the time was the worst possible thing to happen to me, and it has turned out to be the best. I have grown so much more. I am so much happier. I know how to do what I am good at so much better. I am becoming the woman I always knew I could be, and I am helping people along the way in a powerful way. The mess and the darkness is where we grow closer to our truest selves. Embrace that shadow, learn to feel safe in your cave, and learn when it is time for you to leave it, too.
3) We can never lose ourselves. We only lose sight of our own truths.
I know now from personal experiences and working with mentoring clients that this is 100% true. We can NEVER lose ourselves, we can never lose our connection to ourselves, our intuition, our higher self, or our connection to whatever higher power we believe in. We can only lose sight of it, and when we can’t see something, we doubt it to shreds. Choose to see yourself, your truth, and your higher power. Choose to live that out, and you will never be alone or unsupported along your journey.
I know that one day I will speak and write books, and I know I’m not quite there yet. Even if 200 blogs could be a book already. And all while writing about myself this much is a little weird, it is also important that my dear soul seeking, light seeking, truth seeking readers can get to know me in a more personal way. Just because I come across as wise and insightful does not make me any better than any of you. We all have our journeys to walk and experience and we are all here to serve and uplift and carry each other.
I don’t quite know why I am here to inspire + empower, or how I am supposed to shift and expand the consciousness of the world, but I am here and I am showing up for my journey and my work each day. I only look forward with excitement and wonder. I hope you’ve been able to get to know me a bit better, and have more understanding to why I am here and doing what I am doing (at the age that I am).
I am blogging every day this month, and with that, I am going to practice allowing. Today this means I am allowing what wants to be written to be written and shared, which I haven’t done in quite a while and it feels good so far.
The world is not going to change by you screaming about what you don’t want, though it may make your throat hurt. The world is not going to change from your rage tweets, either. Though you may get cramps in your hands from the way you grip your phone in despair. I also doubt the world is going to change only from your protests. This goes for all sides.
The world will not change if you are trying to prove yourself right, or someone else wrong. It will not change if you spend your time sharing your opinion through memes, if you spend your time printing tee shirts that read ‘RESIST’, or if you spend your time trying to be okay with what feels wrong or upsetting that is going on in the world.
The world is not going to change if you eat kale and meditate on peace everyday. Maybe the meditating will help, but you’ll need a lot more where that came from, and you are only one person.
I’m sorry, the world is not going to change with that masterfully written think piece from HuffPost being shared a few hundred times, either.
The world will not change with your spirituality or religion, with your hope or your faith, or your lack thereof. We do not need the government to change for our world to change, either.
We need us to change.
If you want to know how the world is going to change, ask yourself how you can change the world.If the whole world feels too big for you to heal, help, or uplift, then start with your world. Heal, help, and uplift yourself. Maybe you’ll inspire others along the way. Heal, help, and uplift your family, your friends, your office. Heal, help, and uplift your city if you can. Do your best.
But please, just do something. I write because I want to inspire and empower people, and because I know that in time that will help to change the world.
Why do you do what you do? Give it meaning, give it purpose. Bring your work, whatever it is to life. Bring it light.
The world will change when we stop kicking and screaming, but instead choose to stand up straight, step off our pedestals or break our own chains, and get our hands in the soil. Do the work. Dig deep. Heal deeply. Help deeply. Uplift with all of the light that you can. And then make more of that light, because you’ll need it tomorrow.
The world will change when we can change ourselves. Who do you want to be in this life? Live that out loud. What do you want to be remembered for? Live that out loud.
The world will change when we stop looking away from the homeless beggars on the street corner while we judge them and what they could have used your money for, and instead pray for them and hold space for them to find what it is that they need on their journey.
The world will change when we tell our fear and concern of the reality to “Hush, now”, because we have work to do, and we can’t be bothered if we want the change we wish to see in the world be realized. The world will change, you see, when we bring our light to the negativity. Not when we try to drown it out completely, but rather by shifting its energy intentionally.
The Law of Attraction says that as much as you dream something into being, there must be action to support its manifestation. You can dream your dream car up, but when it offers itself to you if you say “No” to signing the papers, what good was your dreaming for anyway? We’ve all dreamed up our dreams of the beautiful world we live in and how it could be more beautiful, we better make damn sure we dot our I’s and cross our T’s, shouldn’t we?
The world will change when we show up to our work with hands ready to create and spirits ready to grow. When we can not just be a part of the conversation, or the resistance, or the movement, but when we can be a part of each other. When we can see ourselves in each other, and when we can both be at peace with our differences, and continue to work together. The world will change when we let our hearts and souls guide us, rather than our thoughts and opinions.
If darkness is the greatest canvas for light, then the world will change when we hold gratitude for our darkness, and begin to paint our light.
This Journey Called Life – How To Trust In It + Learn To Dance With It
I knew blogging everyday for the 31 days of August would open up some weird experiences and energies, and four days in the energetic awareness is not disappointing! I’ve been feeling a lot today. Some amazing things about amazing projects that I get to be a part of, and some less than magical things because, hey, I’m a human experiencing this journey called Life, too. So today, I write this blog both to remind myself of these powerfully peaceful philosophies just as much as I write about them to offer you the insight, wisdom, and guidance that can carry you along your journey.
Life is a journey and a process, and I was reminded today that we must allow ourselves space to experience that in the most graceful and aligned way that we can. I was reminded of a few of the things that are the most important to my journey and I was called to share those things with you today. I know they will guide you divinely. They will bring you home to yourself, and carry you forward in your journey.
Follow Your Signs –
Especially when they don’t make much sense. Follow your signs. The signs you know are made for you. Like the one crystal owl totem in the metaphysical store, even if you aren’t sure of what it means you know it is for you and it has things to teach you. The butterfly that lands on your leg during meditation. The angel numbers you’ve been seeing all day. See those signs, understand what they have to share with you, and follow their guidance.
For those of you unfamiliar with this kind of thing, I’ll share with more simplicity and clarity. You know when you have seen a sign that is yours, and that is guiding you. It is so important along this journey of Life to trust in those signs, because they are divine gifts of guidance, and allow them the guide you and serve you on your path.
Know the Divinity Within Everything –
Following that divinity train mentioned above, I’d like to offer something that can really help you to trust in Life and the experiences it can bring you. To know the divinity within everything means to have awareness and understanding that every single thing that occurs on this earth, within our lives and the world, is meant to be the way it is. This includes the guy that cut you off on the highway, the negative experiences you find yourself in during life, or the way things seem to fall apart at times.
Allow Your Mess To Move Through You –
And here we deepen the dance with Life. Can you allow your mess to move through you, rather than fighting it yourself, or breaking through it’s limitations? If you can allow your mess to move through you with openness and compassion toward yourself, you will find the experience to be more gentle, and much more wise than you maybe would have been open to if you were fighting against your darkness or mess(es) in Life. Breathe. Trust in the process. Continue to dance. And allow your mess to move through you.
When sh*t is hitting the fan or you are feeling triggered by something negative in your life, it can be incredibly important to lean into gratitude. Not only to keep things balanced and keep your energy high, but also to cultivate an intentional energy of abundance that can be amplified, instead of whatever negative energy you may be dealing with. Take gratitude in everything you can – the sunset, your beating heart and breathing lungs, the daisy you saw growing through the cracks of the sidewalk today, the way you were able to express your thoughts just as you wanted to earlier, the fact that you have a roof over your head and that you are always divinely supported, etc.
Give Yourself Space –
Perhaps the most important thing to guide you into trusting in the journey of Life and learning to dance with it. Allow yourself the space that is available to you so that you may come to trust, and learn to dance. Allow yourself the space to let your messes move through you, to lean into gratitude, to see the divinity within everything, and to follow your signs.
I’d love to know, which of these perspectives and tools brought you an Aha! moment today? Share in the comments below what resonated with you and why!