The only reason that dreams in our society hardly become reality, is because we accept that the dreams we desire will ‘most likely’ never be our reality anyway, and that’s before we even try to work towards them! I’d like to invite you to instead be open to the possibilities of the Universe, which includes your dream (whatever that may be) becoming your reality.
For the most part, we have been conditioned, and conditioning each other, not to believe in ourselves. While this is shifting in some ways, it still remains the reality for the vast majority. Why is this? We know of the vast opportunity that the Universe has for us. We have seen people achieve the impossible, build incredible society serving things from nothing, and change the world with their bare hands. So why don’t we believe we can do the same ourselves, let alone try to achieve our own versions of that?
I think this is because we also have grown into a place where we aren’t as keen on asking for what we want. While this is also shifting in some very positive ways, I still see it happen with so many people around me. In mentoring sessions I see people looking for clarity tell me exactly what they want, and the only thing keeping them from the clarity they seek is them. They have to allow themselves to lean into and trust in their desires, and their worthiness. Now, this isn’t easy, but it is one of the most important pieces to achieve that which you desire. It is not selfish to want a beautiful, vibrant, and safe life for yourself. It isn’t selfish to not want to experience distress or exhaustion on a daily basis.
These are our basic human needs. We have to be in a good emotional and physical place so that we can serve those around us in a more impactful way. We also have to be in this space, to the best of our abilities, so that we can align ourselves with what we desire. Part of what can bring us into that energetic alignment, is asking the Universe for what we want.
The more open you are to the Universe supporting you, the more you will see synchronicities, signs that you are on the right path, and the things you desire manifesting for you in even more perfect + divine ways then you could have imagined. So today take a moment to reflect on this: Do you have clarity on what you want? Are you open to the Universe supporting you in actualizing those desires? Are you open to the Universe offering you something better?
What would you think if I told you that your Shadow(s) are one of your greatest gifts in life? If you think that statement is crazy, I would like to prove you wrong in this blog. I believe our society has become too afraid of our own pains and darknesses in life, when if we would look at them with the right perception we would see that these pains, darknesses, and shadows are merely abundant opportunities waiting on us to play.
Yes, I said play. Because you can definitely play in darkness. It may not be as pleasant as playing in light may feel, however you can bring the intention of play into your darkness and experience a much different process of growth and expansion. Which is exactly what this post is going to be about. Our shadow(s), darkness, and pain(s), are our biggest gifts in life because they are opportunities for serious expansion and growth.
Also, healing cannot occur unless we work with (notice: not sit with/in) our shadow. You cannot live in the light all of the time and be a vibrant healed butterfly every moment of your life. Because this is Life. We have to work with our pains and shadows in certain spaces in our lives because it is time for us to grow, evolve, and expand into our next version of vibrancy and authenticity.
There is a certain amount of life that we have to spend working with our darkness and doing the work we need to do to heal, so that we can be the vibrant healed butterflies that we want to be as much as possible. Our darkness + our shadow selves are deeply valuable gifts in life, when we allow them to be. These experiences, though unpleasant, teach us about the light we seek and how to become it.
So the next question becomes, how can we explore our shadows, darkness, and pains with the least bit of upset as possible? It’s not an easy practice, but it is one of the most powerful in my experience. I have personally found that it starts with a foundation of understanding and awareness. Before you even intentionally work with your shadow, you have to have an awareness that the outcome will be for your highest good, and the only thing that can come from moving through your darkness will be even more light.
You have to understand that everything happens for a reason, and everything happens in divine timing. So if something is coming up for you with your shadow, darkness, or pain, this is a sign that it is time to explore, heal, and grow from whatever is showing up for you to heal for yourself. You will never leave this work without having learned a new lesson, and if you think you did the work but don’t have a lesson as a souvenier, then you’re not done doing the work. There is a brilliant video about this very thing from the equally brilliant Glennon Doyle Melton that you can watch below (it’s a longer one, so make some coffee or tea and take the time to enjoy it, let it speak to your soul and teach you).
I invite you today to see your shadows as opportunities. Pick one, and gently begin to work with it. Bring your light along with you and it won’t feel so dark, scary, or lonely. You choose your destiny, but if you want to get there you have to heal some things along the way. And along that journey know that you are loved and supported in every way.
Meet Riley Reign, curator of The Spirit & Soul Blog
Today was a rough one in trying to find a blog topic, in fact, as I type this very blog is is 1:00 am. I went into my meditative space and asked what I could write today, and I was told to tell you more about my story & who I am. As much as I want to say, “Oh I don’t want to come off conceited here”, which I truly do not want to do, I must say I have never spoken about myself in this way very much in real life, let alone online, and so I am interested to see what happens with this guidance, and to see what comes of it. Because let’s be honest, the Work With Me page only scratches the surface (it was written too long ago), and many of you know very little of the (currently) 19 year old trying to change the world from a computer.
So… Hi, I am Riley Reign. Welcome to the Spirit & Soul community!
I am a (currently) 19 year old woman, working to change the world from my computer. I have a deep calling to inspire + empower as many people on this planet as I can in this lifetime, and for whatever reason that decided to manifest as this blog you’re reading on here. I have been raised in a very personal growth centered, spiritually and emotionally open home with an incredible family. I am the oldest of 7 children (all directly related, incase you were curious, because many people are), and while this is true to my life, it is a small piece of what I came here for.
My grandfather taught people how to walk on hot coals, my mother learned and did it when she was young. My family has been meditating and listening to Wayne Dyer for as long as I can remember. There has always been a part of me that has known I would walk the path I am on now in some way. I remember being about 7 or 8 watching a PBS recording of Wayne Dyer teaching and thinking to myself, “I could do that”, while also thinking, “This is dumb – what is he even talking about right now”. What a cute little 8 year old Ego. I remember writing short stories as a tween, very irrelevant ones, but I knew how to write with such ease. I have since learned what a gift that is.
At 16 my family moved states, and houses for the first time I would be able to really remember, and I felt like I was being stripped of everything I knew. What a cute teenage problem to have! In a physical way, you could say that was true. But what really happened over the course of the next few years turned out to be that I was instead coming home to everything I had wished for, consciously and subconsciously. I listened to the song ‘Awake My Soul’ from Mumford & Sons nearly every night, and little did I know that is what I manifested for myself (Thank you, Universe!).
I was given the space to re-learn who I was, and what I was truly made of. Skip through some concealed depression, feeling very stuck and angsty about it, and some soul searching and we cut to the day that I sat watching Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday when the thought that I had years ago resurfaced, “I could do that.”
“Maybe I should start a blog? I can teach about spirituality. Actually, I could really kick ass at this blogging thing.” And 2 days later I had a blog. This very blog you’re reading now. I took 2 months to ‘perfect’ the website and write some ‘content’ and I launched Spirit & Soul. This is the very beginning my friends. Now I have published over 200 blogs on this site and others, I have began mentoring (another coming home to my truth story for another time), and I am in the beginning stages of co-creating a KICK. ASS. 6 week course that will launch the beginning of 2018. I do not have a job, and haven’t since I was 16. While I don’t really make much blogging, I know this is where I am supposed to be, and nearly 2 years in I am just at the beginning of this wonderful crazy journey – that beginning of 2018 stuff is going to crack things open big time.
Here is what I have learned so far:
1) Follow the whispers.
I know now after following the next steps that have been put in front of me, that I am supposed to be right here doing this in the exact way that I am. As much as I have a big why – to shift the consciousness of the world into a better place – my little why is this: I am supposed to be doing this.
2) Trust in the most painful things you go through, because they are your deepest gems.
I thought moving away from my friends and what we were doing at the time was the worst possible thing to happen to me, and it has turned out to be the best. I have grown so much more. I am so much happier. I know how to do what I am good at so much better. I am becoming the woman I always knew I could be, and I am helping people along the way in a powerful way. The mess and the darkness is where we grow closer to our truest selves. Embrace that shadow, learn to feel safe in your cave, and learn when it is time for you to leave it, too.
3) We can never lose ourselves. We only lose sight of our own truths.
I know now from personal experiences and working with mentoring clients that this is 100% true. We can NEVER lose ourselves, we can never lose our connection to ourselves, our intuition, our higher self, or our connection to whatever higher power we believe in. We can only lose sight of it, and when we can’t see something, we doubt it to shreds. Choose to see yourself, your truth, and your higher power. Choose to live that out, and you will never be alone or unsupported along your journey.
I know that one day I will speak and write books, and I know I’m not quite there yet. Even if 200 blogs could be a book already. And all while writing about myself this much is a little weird, it is also important that my dear soul seeking, light seeking, truth seeking readers can get to know me in a more personal way. Just because I come across as wise and insightful does not make me any better than any of you. We all have our journeys to walk and experience and we are all here to serve and uplift and carry each other.
I don’t quite know why I am here to inspire + empower, or how I am supposed to shift and expand the consciousness of the world, but I am here and I am showing up for my journey and my work each day. I only look forward with excitement and wonder. I hope you’ve been able to get to know me a bit better, and have more understanding to why I am here and doing what I am doing (at the age that I am).