This week we’re going to be talking about my biggest lesson in life and spirituality so far, and that is deeply trusting AND then surrendering to the rest of the process. Let’s be real here, this is something all of us struggle with, probably on a weekly basis. Learning to trust in yourself is a somewhat easy process and practice compared to learning how to allow yourself surrender and well, allow.
The idea that sparked this article topic for me was a recent live I did with the incredible Lexi Schaffer, for her amazing and inspiring podcast Journey to Six Figures. You can listen to that episode here!
You may hear many other spiritual teachers and leaders talk about trust and surrender often, and that is because these two practices of energy and mindset are really important pieces to a solid spiritual connection and foundation. Many people have lots of trust and ease trusting in themselves, while others have a great amount of trust and ease trusting in their Higher Power, and for others it can be hard to trust fully in either of these.
So in my personal experience, for a strong connection to yourself, your inner guidance, and your higher power + guidance you must be willing to trust in yourself and your inner guidance above anyone else’s opinion and then you’ve got to surrender it all, and allow it to be what it is supposed to. Intentions and goals while incredible habits, also need to be surrendered in a sense to manifest.
If you are clenching onto an outcome or result you will likely close yourself off to that very thing happening, while when you release it to it’s highest good you are more energetically open and receptive to it’s manifestation and divine alignment (even if it doesn’t look exactly how you wanted it to).
To be able to trust in yourself enough to follow your intuition and guidance is powerful in itself. When you can do that and then let it go to be what it will be and feel good about however it unfolds is where the deepest and most powerful magic has the space to come through.
Many of us can agree, that it is incredibly hard to get out of our own way enough to practice this, however that is only because we make it hard on ourselves. We were not made to experience hardship and upset, we were made to live life in a way of presence, experience, and growth.
We’ve got to get out of our own heads, and out of our own way just enough to let the magic that is more than available to us in. Because truly, we are the only thing’s that can get in our way. This requires a continuous practice of deeply trusting, and consistently surrendering.
I’d love to hear your questions about this topic so that I can answer them and expand on this message in the weekly FB Live show on Riley Reign. If you are ready to trust and surrender let us know how in the comment section below! And, if trust + surrender are your focus for 2018, I would love to have you as a student in my powerhouse course, Inspired Transformation. You can join the course waitlist just below this blog.
This Is For Those That Feel Like Their Dreams Are Impossible
Throughout my journey I have felt more than enough times that what I am set out to do is nearly impossible, and while spirituality and my soul-journey have more than supported me and held me within that, and carried me all the way to where I am now, I have learned something very valuable from my dreams and goals themselves.
And, that lesson is exactly what I am here to share with you today!
So here’s the deal my beautiful soul-seeking, co-creating badasses…
Your dreams are not impossible.
They are almost impossible.
#TruthBomb #MicDrop. You see, words have power. More so than we give them credit for. The word almost, in this instant, quite literally creates space for the impossible to be possible. You also grant yourself the permission to be inspired and empowered more than enough to go for it.
My friends, your dreams, goals, ideas, desires, etc. are not impossible. They are almost impossible. Which makes your dreams, goals, ideas, desires, etc. equally as almost possible. Here, you become empowered. Here, you CAN make it happen. Here, your dreams, goals, ideas, desires, etc. are so much closer to you than you think.
When you operate from this new-found space, you can create anything you dream, think, and desire.
The Law of Attraction says, “Your thoughts create your reality.” So, what are you focused on? How impossible your dreams, goals, ideas, desires, etc. are? Or, how you’ve got just enough space to pull it off, make it happen, manifest magic, and inspire + empower the world with your “almost” impossible mindset to bring positive change.
So to all of you beautiful light-working, inspired as hell souls that are craving something magic but are afraid, feel like (or are told) that your dreams are impossible, or even just don’t know where to start here’s what I’ve got to say :
You can do this.
I know so because I’m doing it too, in my own way, and I’m walking right beside you.
If you believe in yourself and your soul is calling you to show up for something, show up for it.
It might be scary and push you outside of your comfort zone, but you’ve got magic to share and you can’t hide it or deny the rest of the world that is looking for what you have to offer.
Your dreams are NOT impossible.
They are almost impossible.
Lean into the almost. With everything you’ve got. It will carry you, I promise.
If you liked this blog or it brought inspiration and empowerment to you please share your experience in the comments below! If you have any questions about this topic, how to implement it, or why it is important, please ask your question(s) below and I will answer them in our weekly FB Live Q+A Saturday!
Ahhh, Resistance. That constrictive feeling that you think is telling you to, “Run!” That feeling that whatever you’re about to do is too uncomfortable, too scary, too much for right now…
How would it feel if I told you that Resistance is a tool?!
That pesky, uncomfortable, fight or flight feeling we call Resistance is a tool. It is a tool for growth, it is a tool for facing your fears, and it is a tool for transformation.
Steven Pressfield, the author of The War of Art deciphers the difference between being an amatuer and professional as, “An amateur is an artist who loses out to Resistance. A professional is an artist that beats Resistance, daily.” Pressfield refers to Resistance as an energy or entity that is, “a repelling force. It’s negative. Its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work.”
Someone who is mastering themselves and their work is moving through Resistance on a weekly basis at the least. Because, you see, Resistance is a sign that whatever you are resistant toward is an opportunity to grow, to show up, and to claim your own profession.
So, what does one do when Resistance arises + bubbles to the surface?
Feel the fear, and do it anyway. Acknowledge that your Resistance is a tool, a sign to keep going. To go with even more courage that you may have before. Bless the Resistance you are feeling, and grow forward with your bad self.
Claim your Resistance as an important part of your process, because it is. Feeling and acknowledging the Resistance is a crucial part of being able to move through the Resistance itself.
I am so fucking excited and honored to share today’s Transformation Inspiration interview with you, because today’s feature is so inspiring to me. Perhaps I’m a little biased, as the bad-ass you’re about to meet is my own dad, but I know that even without my bias this man is inspiring many more than he knows and that ripple effect will only continue to grow.
Keith McCoy is a husband, a father and an entrepreneur currently living in Colorado raising his family while growing a wellness business with his wife. Driven by the ideals of freedom, empowerment and radical accountability intermixed with a passion to serve whenever and wherever the need arises, his book, Choose Different is just one of many ways to increase an ever-growing global ripple.
For inquiries or speaking engagements please email firstname.lastname@example.org
Below, you’ll find a bit of Keith’s story and where he is now written in his own words, from an excerpt of his brand new book (available now), Choose Different, and then we’ll get into this awesome interview.
“My intention with this book is to bring to light for you what I believe to be one of the most important, if not the most important, principles that defines how I move about my days, weeks and life now. It is to share with you how I was able to come from the life described above and live this – I have been married to the same amazing woman for 20 years. We have 7 (soon to be 8) beautiful kids together. Even though I tried my damnedest in the beginning to sabotage this relationship, and I certainly caused her some pain, she stuck by me. If not for her I do not know where I would be today. I will always maintain that she was the first to teach me that I deserved to be loved unconditionally. She taught me that I needed to love myself. Because of that I learned somewhere along the line that I had to take responsibility for me; for who I was and for the consequences of my actions.
I was forced to see the ripple effect my actions would cause and to hold myself accountable to those ripples. The reality is that in every single thing we do, consciously or otherwise, we leave a mark, there is a cause and an effect. In everything we do, we have a choice. We may often feel like we don’t. And as we will discuss again, feelings aren’t facts. I recently heard a quote that aligns perfectly with this concept – Reality is often harsh, but always fair. So when you step back and look at the reality of your life, if you truly want clarity, you must remove the emotion and see the situation for what it is: The result of your choices. Each choice has a ripple, a butterfly effect, that either affects us, and those around us, in a detrimental way or in a way that benefits us. We cannot get away from this universal truth. And the sooner you can realize, understand and truly appreciate that you are in control of your decisions, and that ultimately the choices you make are the most important thing in how you live your life, the sooner you can begin to live your life by design.” – Keith McCoy, author of Choose Different
Now, let’s get into this super special edition of Transformation Inspirations and get on with the interview bit, shall we?
Where were you at before you transformed your life? What was your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?
I was angry and lost. Broke and living in a victim mentality. My marriage was on the rocks and my relationship with my kids was not a good one.
During that period of your life, what did you wish for or dream of the most for yourself?
I didn’t dream or wish for anything. I didn’t believe that was really possible.
When your life began to change, what cause the shift(s) for you?
I realized that if I didn’t make a change I would lose my kids. I would most likely end up alone. I decided that radical change needed to be made immediately and so I chose to stop drinking and to turn inward. To take full responsibility of my actions and to not blame anyone else.
What did your transformation look like for you, and how did the experience feel?
I dove into Eastern Philosophy. I read Dharma Punx by Noah Levine and Awakening the Buddha Within by Lama Surya Das. In the beginning I was more angry and confused because i only realized how asleep I had been and how asleep most of the rest of us are. In my attempts to find center I only got deeper into frustration. It took a while for me to swing back and realize that the only journey I need to be concerned with is my own. And that how aware or unaware anyone else was or wasn’t really wasn’t my concern.
What practice, tool, or mindset has been the most meaningful and impactful for you along your journey?
Radical Accountability. I am the product of my choices and exactly where I choose to be. Sometimes that is an unconscious choice, or there are unintended consequences of the choices I make. But they are mine and I embrace them. The wins or the lessons, whatever the result.
Having gone through the transformation that you have now, what would you say to your past self?
Honestly? I wouldn’t talk to my old self. I have often said that 2017 me and 2005 me would not be friends. But given the opportunity to do so I would tell him to read Choose Different and let that stand on its own.
Where is your life now? What is your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?
I live a very fulfilled life. I still have unachieved business goals and things I want to do but I have clarity in how to get them and understanding that they will come when they’re supposed to and when I have learned the lessons I need to learn that will make me the person who can handle the abundance I am attracting. I have no true complaints and have learned, and still practice improving, loving what is and becoming the best version of myself possible.
Aside from my immense gratitude for my Dad, he is a living, breathing, legacy leading example of what it means to show up, choose different, and lead both the life you want to and a life that is continuously giving. If you look at your life and the state of things surrounding you and think, “I couldn’t change this if I tried, so why even try.” I hope that you can look at my dad and all of the incredible people featured in this series and know that you can Choose Different. Any moment in time can be your quantum moment. All you’ve got to do is choose.
Personal + spiritual growth, it sounds so pretty doesn’t it? It is one of the messiest things a person can journey through, and I invite you to know that the mess is the exact reason it is such a beautiful and empowering process. Many of us begin this journey because the sparkle of love + light and enlightenment look so good, and then we begin and we learn that so much of this journey is learning how to rise from the bullshit. That experience is a messy one.
I’d like to invite you to embrace the mess, and invite it to empower you. Because let’s be real, the mess is the only reason we can grow in the first place. How does a tree’s soil gain enough moisture for a tree to properly grow and thrive? Icy winter’s, stormy summers, and a whole lot of changing climates. The cold of the winter empowers the tree because the tree needs the winter snow to fall and melt. The crashing + pouring storms of the summer empower the trees in the same way, pushing the tree to take it’s roots to a place that will hold it stably, raining water into the soil for the tree to be nourished.
We’ve got icy winters and summer storms of our own and those seasons are messy, but it is within that mess that we learn. It is from the darkness that we can know light, and it is from our own messes that we can find our messages and our lessons.
There will be times where you don’t know what to say or do, and you won’t know what the right next step will be. There will be times when you feel like you’re going a little bit crazy, but damn you’re so passionate about being able to grow and be as empowered as you can be.
There will be moments when your truth will trigger someone else’s fear, and you’ll likely be named, blamed, and seen as the problem itself.
The magic is though, that we get to choose. We get to choose to play small and keep ourselves safe. We get to choose to live in our passion and take on the mess because let’s be real it’s kind of fun after the fact, and we get to choose to become what we want (or not).
Is it messy? Sure. Is it sometimes like trying to catch your breath when you’re caught in the current of a wave? Definitely.
But do you remember being a kid and finger painting off of the paper and onto the table, or maybe even yourself? Sure, you got in trouble, after a minute it was uncomfortable, but damn it was worth it to experience that freedom and creation.
Life is fucking messy! But you get to choose who you are, and how you live. So live within the mess with as much grace and joy as you can. Embrace the mess, dance with it, invite it to create (with) You.
If you have any questions that you’d like answered about this topic, leave them in the comments section down below and I will answer them on Facebook Live tomorrow (Nov. 4th, 2017) at 7 am. MST on the Riley Reign fanpage.