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In Response to : ‘What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life’

In Response to : ‘What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life’

***Trigger warning***: this blog is going to be very passionate and big hearted. I hope dearly that you are not offended by such energy and perspective. And if you are, what the heck are you doing here!? (This space is all love and positive energy, and if you find anything I say in this blog offensive or distasteful please know that was not my intention, as I write from a space of unconditional love along with an intention of expansion of consciousness.)

This blog is a response to the blog recently published, that went somewhat viral, from A Life in Progress titled ‘What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life’. I have personal and biased opinions and perspectives on life that is heavily contradictory to this post, but I also found some things mentioned in this post as evidence of a small and simple life of mediocrity that I find powerful and beautifully impactful. My intention here is to showcase those ‘little things’ and offer a perspective shift that brings those ‘little things’ into a shining, powerful and impactful light.

The author of this piece, Krista O’Reilly-Davi-Digui, seems to be a beautiful soul doing the best she can to bring light and serve others. She is a self-proclaimed ‘imperfect light bearer’, as her website bio reads. I could see us being very kindred, however this is my first issue with this article, as anyone working to bring forth light in this world is in no way living small. That action does not occur without a subtle but eventual world influencing ripple effect. To wish for and hold space for the goodness of others is not a small action or philosophy, and it is far from mediocre at the least.

In Response to: 'What if All I Want is A Mediocre Life?' from the Spirit & Soul blog
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The article begins with this opening, “What if all I want is a small, slow, and simple life? What if I am most happy in the space of in between. Where calm lives. What if I am mediocre and choose to be at peace with that?” To this I would like to say, there is deeply rooted wisdom and power within peace, especially choosing to experience peace. There is nothing small-minded or mediocre about this. If we are speaking of the same kind of peace, what we are speaking of is transcendent and contagiously shifts consciousness when shared. Even further, what I have come to know of the woman writing this piece is that she is not mediocre, and I beg her not to accept something so disempowering and untrue of herself.

The whole piece is written not about mediocrity, but about breaking societal roles and expectations. It is more about embracing of authenticity and the letting go of trying to be someone or something that we are not. Nothing, absolutely nothing, about that message is mediocre. The author shares experiences like, “What if I never build an orphanage in Africa but send bags of groceries to people here and there and support a couple of kids through sponsorship. What if I just offer the small gifts I have to the world and let that be enough.” and “What if I don’t want to write a cookbook or build a six figure business or speak before thousands. But I write because I have something to say and I invest in a small community of women I care about and encourage them to love and care for themselves well.” as validating examples of mediocrity, when the truth of these actions is actually the opposite.

There is absolutely nothing about offering the gifts you have to the world that is mediocre. There is absolutely nothing about writing because you have something to say and something to share that is mediocre. To be mediocre, by definition means to be “of only moderate quality; not very good.” I am not a religious person by any means, but I wholeheartedly believe we humans were made in the likeness and image of God, and I have a really hard time finding anything mediocre about that, which tells me that even in our essence we cannot be mediocre.

You can both impact the world positively and make your life count in a seemingly small and slow way, please tell me you see the immense beauty and influence that has, because there is nothing about it that rings mediocre from my perspective. I’ll tell you this though, you cannot be a positive influence in any one person’s life and be living small. Here’s why, wanting and offering more for someone else is not a small minded desire or action, and that kind of unconditional compassion and fierce light working creates a ripple effect beyond your belief.

From being aware of that ripple effect, I know that I want to make waves and I know that you cannot do that by living small, but that doesn’t mean you cannot still be human and still have space to grow at your own pace. I respect each of you and each of your personal journeys very deeply. I need you to know how much power and true light you are giving away in accepting your gifts, whatever they may be, as something mediocre.

If it feels like you are living in a small way, I ask you warmly to acknowledge that you are not someone or something small. Embrace your power and influence, even if it doesn’t feel like it is that worldly relatable or impactful, because the reality is that every action you take from a heart centered space is one that will ripple out love and light into the world more than you can know. Each one of us was born with a beautiful power to consciously begin that ripple effect and impact the world in our own ways, and to live as if we cannot change things or be the light we wish to see is in denial of our true nature.

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

How to Create Your Self-Improvement Practice

How to Create Your Self-Improvement Practice

It seems to be more than just a trend these days to follow a path of self-improvement or personal-development, but what’s all the fuss about? The importance of being authentic and of integrity is becoming more and more valuable, and I think this both influences and is inspired to grow by the “self-help” niche and lifestyle. This blog is for anyone looking to begin their journey toward their highest potential, but before we start, I want to make sure we get your intentions aligned.

This kind of personal work should never be started from a place of comparison or trying to boost the Ego. If you wish to begin a practice of self-improvement, please have your intentions in alignment. Do not begin this work from a place of, “I want to better myself so I can get attention from others around me.” but instead from a mindset of, “I want to better myself, for myself. I want to see how much I can grow.” If you come from a space of the latter, your expectations of the process and the reality of the process will likely not be what you originally wanted.

Self-Improvement

Now that your intentions are sorted, let’s chat about what your practice may look like. This begins with one key: your practice will not look like everyone else’s. Your experiences and lessons will be personal, tailored to you and what you need to learn, when you need to learn it. You may follow an incredibly creative space of self-improvement, you may be more inspired by a very spiritual side of things, or you may be super practical and impactful with your practice (I see Tony Robbins vibes with this one). You might explore meditation, healing crystals, and energy work, or you might dive into the creative process and how to maximize your creativity, or maybe perhaps you’ll explore mindfulness techniques and lessons of compassion.

Let your journey be just what it is… Yours.

So how do you start a life project like this? WHERE do you start?! “There are so many books, speakers, thought leaders, seminars, events, and courses I don’t know what would be best for me!” I can see your concern already. Here’s the best advice I have to offer you. Start simple. Be intentional. Trust your intuition.

You do know what you need the most, you do know who you want to learn with and from first, and you know what will be the simplest first step for you on your personal journey. Honor it all.

If you’re just starting out, don’t go listen to Abraham (Hicks) about manifestation or the Universe… unless you know in your heart of hearts that that’s what you need and will benefit most from in your journey right now.  If you’re a reader, start with a book. If you’re more visual, head to youtube right now! If you like hands on learning, it’s time to get to one of those amazing events you’ve probably had on your vision board at least once in the last 1o years.

A few mindful tips before you begin…

  1. Be gentle!
    Be gentle with yourself on this journey and throughout this process. Do not speak to yourself in a way that you wouldn’t speak to your best friend. Yes, you most definitely need to be real with yourself when you aren’t showing up in the way(s) you may need or want to. At the same time, support yourself. Allow yourself to be supported. Be gentle with yourself, because this is hard work, and you deserve to be your own cheerleader.
  2. Know when to push yourself.
    You’ll know when you aren’t doing what you need to be doing to experience the growth and results you desire. Which means, you’ll know when to push yourself. All while remaining supportive.
  3. Everything happens in Divine Timing.
    If you’re really struggling with something, or when you feel like you’ve hit a wall, just know that everything happens in Divine Timing. You are exactly where you need to be in your journey at all times, even if it really feels terribly sucky. You will get where you need to go, and if you aren’t there yet it may be because the timing isn’t quite right yet. Be patient.
  4. Always be open.
    To learn properly, you must be open. To retain that lesson and apply it to your big beautiful life, you must be open. You may be uncomfortable, pushed out of your comfort zone, and you still must do your absolute best to stay as open as you can. Both energetically, and mindfully.

 

Some tools that may help you start off on the right foot or get super charged inspired:

If you already have a self-improvement practice, sound off in the comments below and share with us how this has changed your life for the better! If you don’t have a practice yet, but are excited to start, share with us what you’re most excited to (hopefully) learn on this path.

Enjoy your journey!!!

Namaste
~Riley Reign