This week we’re going to be talking about my biggest lesson in life and spirituality so far, and that is deeply trusting AND then surrendering to the rest of the process. Let’s be real here, this is something all of us struggle with, probably on a weekly basis. Learning to trust in yourself is a somewhat easy process and practice compared to learning how to allow yourself surrender and well, allow.
The idea that sparked this article topic for me was a recent live I did with the incredible Lexi Schaffer, for her amazing and inspiring podcast Journey to Six Figures. You can listen to that episode here!
You may hear many other spiritual teachers and leaders talk about trust and surrender often, and that is because these two practices of energy and mindset are really important pieces to a solid spiritual connection and foundation. Many people have lots of trust and ease trusting in themselves, while others have a great amount of trust and ease trusting in their Higher Power, and for others it can be hard to trust fully in either of these.
So in my personal experience, for a strong connection to yourself, your inner guidance, and your higher power + guidance you must be willing to trust in yourself and your inner guidance above anyone else’s opinion and then you’ve got to surrender it all, and allow it to be what it is supposed to. Intentions and goals while incredible habits, also need to be surrendered in a sense to manifest.
If you are clenching onto an outcome or result you will likely close yourself off to that very thing happening, while when you release it to it’s highest good you are more energetically open and receptive to it’s manifestation and divine alignment (even if it doesn’t look exactly how you wanted it to).
To be able to trust in yourself enough to follow your intuition and guidance is powerful in itself. When you can do that and then let it go to be what it will be and feel good about however it unfolds is where the deepest and most powerful magic has the space to come through.
Many of us can agree, that it is incredibly hard to get out of our own way enough to practice this, however that is only because we make it hard on ourselves. We were not made to experience hardship and upset, we were made to live life in a way of presence, experience, and growth.
We’ve got to get out of our own heads, and out of our own way just enough to let the magic that is more than available to us in. Because truly, we are the only thing’s that can get in our way. This requires a continuous practice of deeply trusting, and consistently surrendering.
I’d love to hear your questions about this topic so that I can answer them and expand on this message in the weekly FB Live show on Riley Reign. If you are ready to trust and surrender let us know how in the comment section below! And, if trust + surrender are your focus for 2018, I would love to have you as a student in my powerhouse course, Inspired Transformation. You can join the course waitlist just below this blog.
Transformation Inspirations : Roger Webb, Belief Breakthrough Guru
Welcome to this week’s Transformation Inspiration interview! This week I am SO excited to share with you the story + teachings of the incredibly powerful Belief Breakthrough Guru, Roger Webb. Roger has been a personal inspiration and mentor to me for the last year or so, and his BBT Live! event changed my life for the better by helping me to truly and wholeheartedly step into my power and OWN it.
Roger Webb has been a Life/Wellness Coach and Sales & Management trainer for individuals & companies all over the globe for over 20 years. He has worked with all levels of businesses, from small sales organizations to fortune 500 companies. As a Master NLP Practitioner, Roger has a keen insight to the subconscious mind, and has a deep commitment to helping others break through their limiting beliefs, to achieve amazing success, both personally and professionally. He has raised 5 amazing kids on his own, and is deeply committed to empowering others to live lives of passion, authenticity, optimal health, and love!
In Roger’s own words, here is his story of transformation…
“My story… wow, that’s a potential novel (really)! I am a single dad, and have spent the last 7 years raising 5 awesome kids, on my own. It’s taught me a lot about what maters in life. I have been a life coach, for 20+ years, and the last 10 as a Master NLP Practitioner. I have a deep passion for helping people realize the Divine Truths about themselves and create a bigger, better, life of magic. I’ve gone through massive transformation in my own life over the last 10 years, and find that my authenticity and passion can impact others, and empower them to dream and move! My own growth, required the shedding of nearly everything I was taught and believed growing up, which forced me to recreate myself, from scratch. I made many mistakes along the way, and each one of them taught me a more beautiful lesson than the one before. My work as a Life Coach/Master NLP Practitioner over 20 years brought me to a deep passion around helping people break through their limiting beliefs. I believe that limiting beliefs are the cause of most issues/challenges that people have. With that said, I discovered something profound this past summer. My personal focus this year, has been around self love. I really wanted to fall in love with myself. As I went through this process, I came to a realization that SELF LOVE is truly the root of it all. The more I fell in love with myself, the less power my limiting beliefs had over me, and the more I was able to see my weaknesses and challenges. It’s been a pretty amazing journey!” ~ Roger Webb
Now let’s get into this inspirational interview!
Where were you at before you transformed your life? What was your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?
I am having a hard time remembering that man. I was raised in a pretty controlling religious upbringing, where I was told what and how to believe. In the end, very little of those beliefs stuck with me, as I shed them for a deeper and greater understanding of universal truths, and my own relationship with Divinity. I was the opposite of what I am today. I was timid, quiet, reserved, and led a very mediocre life, which was just fine for me, back then. I saw life through a VERY small lens. Everything was black or white. My view of life, the world, and humanity was very one sided. I had no clue what my role was on this Earth, and was ok with that. I was also living in a space in which it wasn’t ok to be authentic. No one talked about what was really going on inside of them. Especially if it was viewed as negative. I wore the same mask that most of those in my life wore. Everything was ok, and God forbid we ever said otherwise. That led me to living a life of being numb. I knew about emotions, but I had no reference point for many of them. I knew sadness very well… but that’s about it.
During that period of your life, what did you wish for or dream of the most for yourself?
Nothing. Growing up, I was a big dreamer. I wanted it all. However, I was taught by many people in my life that dreams were impractical. So in my mid twenties, I stopped dreaming. Al I wanted to be was a good husband and a good father. Don’t get me wrong – there is nothing wrong with either of those and they are amazing things to aspire to… but I knew deep in my heart that I could and would be so much more! Yet, every time I started dreaming, I was told by those in my life that it wasn’t “practical” so I stopped. I always knew I’d be a hell of a dad, and I am… But when I regained my ability to dream, and my passion and vest for having a bigger, better, greater life, I realized that a BIG part of me being an amazing dad, was to show my kids the truth about life… The truth that ANYTHING is within their reach! I am dreaming again, and I’m seeing my kids starting to dream too!
When your life began to change, what cause the shift(s) for you?
I had a massive crisis of faith and personal identity. Everything I had been raised believing, crumbled around me. I had two choices, lie under the rubble, or or rise up and build something new! I realized that at that moment, I had an opportunity to completely recreate my life as I wanted it to be! It has been the most difficult & painful experience to date, but it has brought me to an immensely beautiful place in my life!
What did your transformation look like for you, and how did the experience feel?
For me, it looked like shedding who I was, to become who I knew I could become. A true metamorphosis. There are very few things about me now that are a part of that guy. As I think about it… I know that who I am now, was in there all along… It just took a jackhammer, a blowtorch, and a few cases of C4, to get myself out of that prison. I started with a few personal development seminars, back in 1997. The walls started crumbling, and I couldn’t stop. I became obsessed with discovering who I really am. As I mentioned earlier, there was a lot of pain involved. IT wasn’t always fun… but it was ALWAYS worth it, and each time I shed another layer, I felt lighter, and happier!
What practice, tool, or mindset has been the most meaningful and impactful for you along your journey?
For me, it’s been a realization and understanding, that I can’t do it ALL at once. I tried for a long time and felt like a failure often. So, my practice now, consists of the following: 1, Work hard to be conscious of every moment. The words I say, the thoughts I think, and the actions I take. Am I doing them consciously? 2. Do SOMETHING every day towards bettering myself. Even if it’s tiny… Just one thing every day. If I can go to bed, knowing I did something to improve, I’ve won. 3. Be gentle on myself. 4. Take care of my body. 5. Focus on Love, Peace, and Joy. Anything that doesn’t fit in these three things, or that takes away from them, doesn’t get to take up space in my life.
Having gone through the transformation that you have now, what would you say to your past self?
Live your life with passion, authenticity, and love. At all costs. Don’t listen to anything or anyone who distracts you from that path. ALWAYS remember your own Divinity. There is power there that you will never fully be able to comprehend! And I LOVE YOU!
Where is your life now? What is your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?
I’m still on the path. I have amazing days and I have rough days. However, the rough days now, serve as lessons, so I can rise higher. I’m at peace. Those are words I could never say for many years. I am truly living my mission, to Live life with passion, authenticity, and love, by walking my talk. That last part is the kicker sometimes. When I’m walking the talk, all of life is great… When I’m not, it’s a good barometer for me that I am out of sync with my mission, and I have work to do. I feel a constant vibration in my life now. A vibration of growth, of understanding, of joy, and of adventure. Life is a fucking roller coaster. It’s my choice on whether or not I am going to enjoy the ride, (even the scary parts that I don’t like) or chicken out!
Roger Webb is an amazing human and his story is just as amazing and inspirational as well. I am so grateful not only that Roger is in my life but that he lives his life from leadership and open heartedness and is so willing to show up for the betterment of everyone. l am so proud + grateful to be able to feature him and his work here in the Transformation Inspirations series. If you’d like to learn more from Roger and get more familiar with his work you can do so here.
Ahhh, Resistance. That constrictive feeling that you think is telling you to, “Run!” That feeling that whatever you’re about to do is too uncomfortable, too scary, too much for right now…
How would it feel if I told you that Resistance is a tool?!
That pesky, uncomfortable, fight or flight feeling we call Resistance is a tool. It is a tool for growth, it is a tool for facing your fears, and it is a tool for transformation.
Steven Pressfield, the author of The War of Art deciphers the difference between being an amatuer and professional as, “An amateur is an artist who loses out to Resistance. A professional is an artist that beats Resistance, daily.” Pressfield refers to Resistance as an energy or entity that is, “a repelling force. It’s negative. Its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work.”
Someone who is mastering themselves and their work is moving through Resistance on a weekly basis at the least. Because, you see, Resistance is a sign that whatever you are resistant toward is an opportunity to grow, to show up, and to claim your own profession.
So, what does one do when Resistance arises + bubbles to the surface?
Feel the fear, and do it anyway. Acknowledge that your Resistance is a tool, a sign to keep going. To go with even more courage that you may have before. Bless the Resistance you are feeling, and grow forward with your bad self.
Claim your Resistance as an important part of your process, because it is. Feeling and acknowledging the Resistance is a crucial part of being able to move through the Resistance itself.
Personal + spiritual growth, it sounds so pretty doesn’t it? It is one of the messiest things a person can journey through, and I invite you to know that the mess is the exact reason it is such a beautiful and empowering process. Many of us begin this journey because the sparkle of love + light and enlightenment look so good, and then we begin and we learn that so much of this journey is learning how to rise from the bullshit. That experience is a messy one.
I’d like to invite you to embrace the mess, and invite it to empower you. Because let’s be real, the mess is the only reason we can grow in the first place. How does a tree’s soil gain enough moisture for a tree to properly grow and thrive? Icy winter’s, stormy summers, and a whole lot of changing climates. The cold of the winter empowers the tree because the tree needs the winter snow to fall and melt. The crashing + pouring storms of the summer empower the trees in the same way, pushing the tree to take it’s roots to a place that will hold it stably, raining water into the soil for the tree to be nourished.
We’ve got icy winters and summer storms of our own and those seasons are messy, but it is within that mess that we learn. It is from the darkness that we can know light, and it is from our own messes that we can find our messages and our lessons.
There will be times where you don’t know what to say or do, and you won’t know what the right next step will be. There will be times when you feel like you’re going a little bit crazy, but damn you’re so passionate about being able to grow and be as empowered as you can be.
There will be moments when your truth will trigger someone else’s fear, and you’ll likely be named, blamed, and seen as the problem itself.
The magic is though, that we get to choose. We get to choose to play small and keep ourselves safe. We get to choose to live in our passion and take on the mess because let’s be real it’s kind of fun after the fact, and we get to choose to become what we want (or not).
Is it messy? Sure. Is it sometimes like trying to catch your breath when you’re caught in the current of a wave? Definitely.
But do you remember being a kid and finger painting off of the paper and onto the table, or maybe even yourself? Sure, you got in trouble, after a minute it was uncomfortable, but damn it was worth it to experience that freedom and creation.
Life is fucking messy! But you get to choose who you are, and how you live. So live within the mess with as much grace and joy as you can. Embrace the mess, dance with it, invite it to create (with) You.
If you have any questions that you’d like answered about this topic, leave them in the comments section down below and I will answer them on Facebook Live tomorrow (Nov. 4th, 2017) at 7 am. MST on the Riley Reign fanpage.
We’re back! Hello, November!!! And hello, You! Before we get too into this blog, I want to let you know if you haven’t heard yet, Spirit + Soul is going back to it’s regular schedule of weekly blogs and adding a weekly FB Live chat to go along!!! Be sure to like Spirit & Soul and Riley Reign on facebook to get access to those FB Lives! They will only be available for 24 hours after the live each, so be sure to follow along.
Now, everyone has some form of a personal vision. Be it a grand vision, a simple vision, or a world changing mission kind of vision. I see so many people struggling to step into that vision and begin living it out though, so how does one realize their powerful vision?
This has been something I have been personally navigating and learning through over the last few weeks especially. As I have been shedding old stories and making space for opportunity and miracles that are always surrounding me, and writing new stories for myself, I found myself asking, “But, how do I become that person?” I know that I can, but HOW?? Elevating to the next-level is scary and often integration is messy in the most perfect sense of the word, but actually getting yourself there requires a hell of a lot of getting out of your own damn way.
And also, really stepping into yourself wholly. Simultaneously.
Here’s what I’ve learned again and again in the last few weeks as I navigate my own next-level:
Ah yes, you get the results you show up for. So how do you embody your vision? How do you BECOME that person you daydream of and truly know you have everything within you to become?
Show. The. Fuck. Up.
Take the next step, and the next after that, and the next after that. Walk your path. Own your journey. Keep going. Follow your soul’s callings, and show up for the guidance.
How does the person you want to become live their life? What about their life is different, more expansive, more high-vibe, or more next-level than your current life?
That vision is your road-map. Show up for it. Follow it. Use those differences in lifestyle and presence between your current state and your visionary state as stepping stones to show up for, execute, dedicate yourself to, and you will begin to embody your vision. You will begin to become. You’ve got to choose to get out of your own way to show up for this version of you.
You’ve got to get out of your own way just enough for you to allow yourself to step into your power. You’ve got to get out of your way just long enough for you to empower yourself, get inspired, and never look back.
You have the vision. You know the way.
If you want it madly enough, you’ll show up for it in a way that will place you in alignment (and eventually embodyment) with your vision.
If you have any questions about this topic, leave them in the comments section down below and I will answer them on Facebook Live tomorrow (Nov. 4th, 2017) at 7 am. MST on the Riley Reign fanpage.