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Trust In Your Guidance + Surrender The Rest

Trust In Your Guidance + Surrender The Rest

This week we’re going to be talking about my biggest lesson in life and spirituality so far, and that is deeply trusting AND then surrendering to the rest of the process. Let’s be real here, this is something all of us struggle with, probably on a weekly basis. Learning to trust in yourself is a somewhat easy process and practice compared to learning how to allow yourself surrender and well, allow.

The idea that sparked this article topic for me was a recent live I did with the incredible Lexi Schaffer, for her amazing and inspiring podcast Journey to Six Figures. You can listen to that episode here!

 

Trust Yourself + Surrender the Rest from the Spirit & Soul blog
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You may hear many other spiritual teachers and leaders talk about trust and surrender often, and that is because these two practices of energy and mindset are really important pieces to a solid spiritual connection and foundation. Many people have lots of trust and ease trusting in themselves, while others have a great amount of trust and ease trusting in their Higher Power, and for others it can be hard to trust fully in either of these.

 

So in my personal experience, for a strong connection to yourself, your inner guidance, and your higher power + guidance you must be willing to trust in yourself and your inner guidance above anyone else’s opinion and then you’ve got to surrender it all, and allow it to be what it is supposed to. Intentions and goals while incredible habits, also need to be surrendered in a sense to manifest.

If you are clenching onto an outcome or result you will likely close yourself off to that very thing happening, while when you release it to it’s highest good you are more energetically open and receptive to it’s manifestation and divine alignment (even if it doesn’t look exactly how you wanted it to).

To be able to trust in yourself enough to follow your intuition and guidance is powerful in itself. When you can do that and then let it go to be what it will be and feel good about however it unfolds is where the deepest and most powerful magic has the space to come through.

Many of us can agree, that it is incredibly hard to get out of our own way enough to practice this, however that is only because we make it hard on ourselves. We were not made to experience hardship and upset, we were made to live life in a way of presence, experience, and growth.

We’ve got to get out of our own heads, and out of our own way just enough to let the magic that is more than available to us in. Because truly, we are the only thing’s that can get in our way. This requires a continuous practice of deeply trusting, and consistently surrendering.

 

I’d love to hear your questions about this topic so that I can answer them and expand on this message in the weekly FB Live show on Riley Reign. If you are ready to trust and surrender let us know how in the comment section below! And, if trust + surrender are your focus for 2018, I would love to have you as a student in my powerhouse course, Inspired Transformation. You can join the course waitlist just below this blog.

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

Transformation Inspirations : Roger Webb, Belief Breakthrough Guru

Transformation Inspirations : Roger Webb, Belief Breakthrough Guru

Welcome to this week’s Transformation Inspiration interview! This week I am SO excited to share with you the story + teachings of the incredibly powerful Belief Breakthrough Guru, Roger Webb. Roger has been a personal inspiration and mentor to me for the last year or so, and his BBT Live! event changed my life for the better by helping me to truly and wholeheartedly step into my power and OWN it.

Roger Webb  has been a Life/Wellness Coach and Sales & Management trainer for individuals & companies all over the globe for over 20 years.  He has worked with all levels of businesses, from small sales organizations to fortune 500 companies.  As a Master NLP Practitioner, Roger has a keen insight to the subconscious mind, and has a deep commitment to helping others break through their limiting beliefs, to achieve amazing success, both personally and professionally.  He has raised 5 amazing kids on his own, and is deeply committed to empowering others to live lives of passion, authenticity, optimal health, and love!

 

Transformation Inspirations presents Roger Webb, Belief Breakthrough Guru from the Spirit & Soul blog
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In Roger’s own words, here is his story of transformation…

“My story… wow, that’s a potential novel (really)!  I am a single dad, and have spent the last 7 years raising 5 awesome kids, on my own. It’s taught me a lot about what maters in life.  I have been a life coach, for 20+ years, and the last 10 as a Master NLP Practitioner. I have a deep passion for helping people realize the Divine Truths about themselves and create a bigger, better, life of magic.  I’ve gone through massive transformation in my own life over the last 10 years, and find that my authenticity and passion can impact others, and empower them to dream and move!   My own growth, required the shedding of nearly everything I was taught and believed growing up, which forced me to recreate myself, from scratch.  I made many mistakes along the way, and each one of them taught me a more beautiful lesson than the one before.   My work as a Life Coach/Master NLP Practitioner over 20 years brought me to a deep passion around helping people break through their limiting beliefs.  I believe that limiting beliefs are the cause of most issues/challenges that people have.  With that said, I discovered something profound this past summer. My personal focus this year, has been around self love. I really wanted to fall in love with myself.  As I went through this process, I came to a realization that SELF LOVE is truly the root of it all. The more I fell in love with myself, the less power my limiting beliefs had over me, and the more I was able to see my weaknesses and challenges.  It’s been a pretty amazing journey!” ~ Roger Webb

Now let’s get into this inspirational interview!

 

Where were you at before you transformed your life? What was your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?

I am having a hard time remembering that man. I was raised in a pretty controlling religious upbringing, where I was told what and how to believe. In the end, very little of those beliefs stuck with me, as I shed them for a deeper and greater understanding of universal truths, and my own relationship with Divinity.  I was the opposite of what I am today. I was timid, quiet, reserved, and led a very mediocre life, which was just fine for me, back then.   I saw life through a VERY small lens. Everything was black or white. My view of life, the world, and humanity was very one sided. I had no clue what my role was on this Earth, and was ok with that. I was also living in a space in which it wasn’t ok to be authentic. No one talked about what was really going on inside of them. Especially if it was viewed as negative. I wore the same mask that most of those in my life wore.  Everything was ok, and God forbid we ever said otherwise.  That led me to living a life of being numb.  I knew about emotions, but I had no reference point for many of them. I knew sadness very well… but that’s about it.

During that period of your life, what did you wish for or dream of the most for yourself?

Nothing. Growing up, I was a big dreamer. I wanted it all.  However, I was taught by many people in my life that dreams were impractical. So in my mid twenties, I stopped dreaming.  Al I wanted to be was a good husband and a good father. Don’t get me wrong – there is nothing wrong with either of those and they are amazing things to aspire to… but I knew deep in my heart that I could and would be so much more!  Yet, every time I started dreaming, I was told by those in my life that it wasn’t “practical” so I stopped.   I always knew I’d be a hell of a dad, and I am… But when I regained my ability to dream, and my passion and vest for having a bigger, better, greater life, I realized that a BIG part of me being an amazing dad, was to show my kids the truth about life… The truth that ANYTHING is within their reach!  I am dreaming again, and I’m seeing my kids starting to dream too!

When your life began to change, what cause the shift(s) for you?

I had a massive crisis of faith and personal identity. Everything I had been raised believing, crumbled around me. I had two choices, lie under the rubble, or or rise up and build something new! I realized that at that moment, I had an opportunity to completely recreate my life as I wanted it to be! It has been the most difficult & painful experience to date, but it has brought me to an immensely beautiful place in my life!
What did your transformation look like for you, and how did the experience feel?
For me, it looked like shedding who I was, to become who I knew I could become. A true metamorphosis.  There are very few things about me now that are a part of that guy. As I think about it… I know that who I am now, was in there all along… It just took a jackhammer, a blowtorch, and a few cases of C4, to get myself out of that prison.   I started with a few personal development seminars, back in 1997. The walls started crumbling, and I couldn’t stop. I became obsessed with discovering who I really am.   As I mentioned earlier, there was a lot of pain involved. IT wasn’t always fun… but it was ALWAYS worth it, and each time I shed another layer, I felt lighter, and happier!
What practice, tool, or mindset has been the most meaningful and impactful for you along your journey?
For me, it’s been a realization and understanding, that I can’t do it ALL at once. I tried for a long time and felt like a failure often. So, my practice now, consists of the following:  1, Work hard to be conscious of every moment. The words I say, the thoughts I think, and the actions I take. Am I doing them consciously?  2.  Do SOMETHING every day towards bettering myself. Even if it’s tiny… Just one thing every day. If I can go to bed, knowing I did something to improve, I’ve won.   3. Be gentle on myself.   4. Take care of my body.   5. Focus on Love, Peace, and Joy.  Anything that doesn’t fit in these three things, or that takes away from them, doesn’t get to take up space in my life.
 

Having gone through the transformation that you have now, what would you say to your past self?

Live your life with passion, authenticity, and love. At all costs. Don’t listen to anything or anyone who distracts you from that path.  ALWAYS remember your own Divinity.  There is power there that you will never fully be able to comprehend!   And I LOVE YOU!
Where is your life now? What is your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?
I’m still on the path.  I have amazing days and I have rough days. However, the rough days now, serve as lessons, so I can rise higher. I’m at peace. Those are words I could never say for many years.  I am truly living my mission, to Live life with passion, authenticity, and love, by walking my talk. That last part is the kicker sometimes. When I’m walking the talk, all of life is great… When I’m not, it’s a good barometer for me that I am out of sync with my mission, and I have work to do.  I feel a constant vibration in my life now. A vibration of growth, of understanding, of joy, and of adventure. Life is a fucking roller coaster. It’s my choice on whether or not I am going to enjoy the ride, (even the scary parts that I don’t like) or chicken out!
Roger Webb is an amazing human and his story is just as amazing and inspirational as well. I am so grateful not only that Roger is in my life but that he lives his life from leadership and open heartedness and is so willing to show up for the betterment of everyone.  l am so proud + grateful to be able to feature him and his work here in the Transformation Inspirations series. If you’d like to learn more from Roger and get more familiar with his work you can do so here.

This Is For Those That Feel Like Their Dreams Are Impossible

This Is For Those That Feel Like Their Dreams Are Impossible

Throughout my journey I have felt more than enough times that what I am set out to do is nearly impossible, and while spirituality and my soul-journey have more than supported me and held me within that, and carried me all the way to where I am now, I have learned something very valuable from my dreams and goals themselves.

And, that lesson is exactly what I am here to share with you today!

 

This is for those that feel like their dreams are impossible from the Spirit & Soul blog
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So here’s the deal my beautiful soul-seeking, co-creating badasses…

Your dreams are not impossible.
They are almost impossible.

 

#TruthBomb #MicDrop. You see, words have power. More so than we give them credit for. The word almost, in this instant, quite literally creates space for the impossible to be possible. You also grant yourself the permission to be inspired and empowered more than enough to go for it.

 

 

My friends, your dreams, goals, ideas, desires, etc. are not impossible. They are almost impossible. Which makes your dreams, goals, ideas, desires, etc. equally as almost possible. Here, you become empowered. Here, you CAN make it happen. Here, your dreams, goals, ideas, desires, etc. are so much closer to you than you think.

When you operate from this new-found space, you can create anything you dream, think, and desire.

The Law of Attraction says, “Your thoughts create your reality.” So, what are you focused on? How impossible your dreams, goals, ideas, desires, etc. are? Or, how you’ve got just enough space to pull it off, make it happen, manifest magic, and inspire + empower the world with your “almost” impossible mindset to bring positive change.

So to all of you beautiful light-working, inspired as hell souls that are craving something magic but are afraid, feel like (or are told) that your dreams are impossible, or even just don’t know where to start here’s what I’ve got to say :

 

You can do this. 
I know so because I’m doing it too, in my own way, and I’m walking right beside you.

If you believe in yourself and your soul is calling you to show up for something, show up for it. 
It might be scary and push you outside of your comfort zone, but you’ve got magic to share and you can’t hide it or deny the rest of the world that is looking for what you have to offer.

Your dreams are NOT impossible.
They are almost impossible.

Lean into the almost. With everything you’ve got.
It will carry you, I promise.

 

 

If you liked this blog or it brought inspiration and empowerment to you please share your experience in the comments below! If you have any questions about this topic, how to implement it, or why it is important, please ask your question(s) below and I will answer them in our weekly FB Live Q+A Saturday!

Namaste
~Riley Reign

 

Transformation Inspirations : Stepanka Hojdova

Transformation Inspirations : Stepanka Hojdova

I am so excited to feature Stepanka + her story this week on Transformation Inspirations!

Stepanka is the Women’s Talks founder. The moments of her own healing, coaching, and seeking of motivation inspired her to create a safe space for healing through sharing where you can clarify the right direction of your personal development and find energy to fulfill your dreams.

 

Transformation Inspirations Interview with Stepanka Hojdova from the Spirit & Soul blog
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In her own words, this is the story of Stepanka’s transformation…

 

“As a child I have seen a lots of violence and addictions around. And as all kids do I perceived it as a reality. The more pressure was put on me, the more introverted and windrow I was. My grandfather was pedophile and alcoholic. My father was a strong man, who was using an alternative methods such as yoga, meditation and Chinese medicine to heal himself. It was in times when these tools were not as popular as they are now. He was fighting for what is right inside of himself but the systems inputs were still strong and he was using strong physical punishments on me and my brother. When I was 18 I started to listen to my intuition and moved to New Zealand. I went through my own personal struggles. Ups and downs, tiring to find the reason why am I here. I got married and had my baby girl at the age of 23. I knew it will be turn over in my life and it was. When she was two years old, and we started to have interaction as two human beings I have faced what my father had to face. I was using similar up bringing methods as my parents did. One part of me wanted to stop and another was like auto pilot. That was the time, when I started to pray for the first time. I asked for help and  lead to change. Everything started to change.

I found the book You Can Heal Your Life written by Louis L. Hay. For one year and a half I was on daily basis doing all the exercises that were written in that book. I went deeper and deeper and when I felt it is time to ask for another guidance I have found therapy. I have healed the deepest traumas and felt it is time to move forward. That was time when coaching entered into my life and I have started to focus more on the future than on the past.  While I was going through the coaching training, I have fully forgive my father. I took him to my garden, looked into his eyes and told him I forgive him. He started to cry and asked for forgiveness. We have met in some amazing place where we both made decision to let the past go and took full responsibility for our life and the actions we take in our life. From that moment I have started to follow my own path of freedom and I have started to work hard on to build my life. I keep continuing to study, I create projects like www.womens-talks.com which motto is: Openness and sharing heals.” ~ Stepanka Hjodova

Now let’s get into Stepanka’s insightful + compassionate interview…

 

Where were you at before you transformed your life? What was your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?

I was constantly lost and I was experiencing big ups and downs. Confusion was present all the time. Deep inside I was craving for love, but on the outside I was trying to fit in and be accepted. I was suppressing emotions. From my perspective all the so called negative emotions was fault of people around. I didn’t understand that I have to focus on myself and change my own feelings. True forgiveness and compassion. I was blaming the whole world for my bad state. I thought when I lose weight or in any other way look more beautiful, as the magazine says, I will gain more love and acceptance. Also after the transformation I have gained some inner peace and I thought this is how it is going to be forever. I was happy in that state, I have never experienced it before. What was surprise to me was the strong energy that came afterwards. It took me awhile to understand that it is passion. That it is the creative energy I need to use for sharing my gifts with others. For some time I was channelling it as aggression because I had no idea what is going on. I was craving my peace back and I thought I did something wrong. I was afraid that I am going back and that my personal development has failed 🙂 Just when I relaxed and found the courage to start some work based on my visions and ideas that excites me, I have realised that the strong energy is not step back but forward. Recently I have made an interview with Buddhist nun Emma Slade/ Pema Deki and she brought even more clarity into what is happening to me and I suppose many other who do yoga and meditation to again some peace and clarity. That inner peace is great and is necessary for to deal with some traumas, and gain some clarity about what is our next steps, but the point is the life energy what comes after that. That inner peace is just one stage on the spiritual path. The next one is the force that drives us to create amazing things in this world such as creating healing programs for others, or some art or whatever your gifts are. This is a big turning point for me right now. When we manage that, another level of clarity with joy appears.

 

During that period of your life, what did you wish for or dream of the most for yourself?

 

At the beginning it was simply to survive. I was facing total loss of one self. I was imagining myself as dead which was the only way I gained some inner peace. At that moment I knew I have to do something, learn something and change to live. I was fighting for my life. It took me 6 months daily practice to come to at least one day per week to feel o.k. to feel inner peace and to be free of pain. Than it quickly became two days and so on. So for me it was inner peace and clarity. I wanted to be able to give my children love without violence and fear. Back than I had really day by day goals. I wanted to expand the inner peace just for one more day of the week. I have never went for medication as I felt I would work it out myself. I felt it was important to build my own strategy so it stays life long. So love, peace, clarity.

 

When your life began to change, what caused the shift(s) for you?

I hope I am still at the beginning 🙂 That there is way more for me to unfold 🙂 But the milestones would be the birth of my daughter. The beginning of interaction with her. The forgiveness ritual with my father. That was a strong shift as it was for the first time in my life when I did something with all my heart. With all my being I wanted to leave the hate, blame, pain and just feel love towards him and myself. It took a lot of exercises to be able to feel again. Lots of crying and releasing aggression before the forgiveness moment. Also going for the coaching training was a big shift, because I did for the first time in my life what felt right for me. I have overcome my fear of people and I have met a lots of amazing friends with who I am in touch till now. All those were big moments for me. To step out just with who I am really, loving, happy, sometimes angry, sometimes sad me who is o.k. for being myself.

 

What did your transformation look like for you, and how did the experience feel? 

For me it was like being reborn. I literally felt like some part of me is dying and I have to build all new of myself. It was scary as I had no idea where to start or what to do. I come from a really small city in Czech republic where you don’t have access to some therapy community. So I just went on my knees and started to ask for help. I was in chaos but something led me to find psychology help in other bigger city. So I made appointment and went there. After I told what is going on to the lady, she offered me medication. I said no thank you and left. But what I remembered was a book she proposed me to read. I was so stressed that I couldn’t remember the right name of the book. I started to tell the lady in book store some words that came on my mind like love and so on and she gave me the You Can Heal Your Life book. I suppose it was my intuition, God, universe and my determination to change .. that led me in that time of chaos. After some time of work with the book I was strong enough to study more about what is the difference between psychology and psychotherapy and I was able to find a man who was trained in both of them. I was travelling an hour by car to come to his sessions. So it looked like reborn to me and felt like chaos with glimpses of clarity about what is the next right step to do.

 

What practice, tool, or mindset has been the most meaningful and impactful for you along your journey?

It has been changing during time. My transformation started when I was 25 and as I said at the beginning it was the decision of going on my knees and asking for help. I guess I have opened myself to the fact that there is some other, more conscious energy that can lead me through my healing process. The big determination to change was another huge step for me. I have stopped to focus on others and I started to focus on myself. The book from Louise L. Hay and its exercises helped me with that. Later it was the support of the therapist which lasted for two years. When the deepest healing process was done, it was life coaching that helped me to learn how to work with the new energy I have gained. I was learning how to set up goals and how to create action steps. I have learned how to focus on future rather than past. So it is combination of tools for me. Self help practice, therapy, coaching. All of that has helped me to trust my self and my own intuition, guidance. Also it helped me to learn how to deal with challenges we all keep facing in our life. But still, as I said I am on my path and I believe I will learn more and experience more. This is just one part of the journey.

 

Having gone through the transformation that you have now, what would you say to your past self?

Everything is o.k.

 

Where is your life now? What is your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?

I am going through transformation right now. I am learning effectively direct the creative energy to projects that are useful for others but for me as well. It is challenging as I am not just having interviews with other people but I am being invited for interviews my self. It is a new position for me and I am learning to enjoy going out there and shine 🙂 I am by nature introverted person, but as I am at the face of expansion I am happy to welcome the extroverted part of me right now. I am meeting a lots of great inspiring people right now and sometimes it might be overwhelming. As with any new project and new position you put yourself into, it brings challenges, emotional ups and downs, fears and so on. It might be a bit pressure at times not just on me but on the whole family. On the other hand this time I know what is happening to me, and I just keep swimming with the peace in my heart that everything will fall into its palace. I will become more comfortable every time I stand in front of camera and every time I meet another amazing soul. I see myself like someone who is finalizing this healing journey I have started 6 years ago. When I do step out fully and completely as ME, on every level of life. Private and public. And it all is reflected on the work I do. Soon the emotional state will settle and I will see what is there for me next.

 

 

You guys! Stepanka is such a bright light! I love the subtle reminder that is strung within this interview as well: the reminder that the transformation doesn’t quite ever end. There is always more growing, expanding, and learning to be done if you are willing!

 

 

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

Why Resistance Is a Tool

Why Resistance Is a Tool

Ahhh, Resistance. That constrictive feeling that you think is telling you to, “Run!” That feeling that whatever you’re about to do is too uncomfortable, too scary, too much for right now…

 

How would it feel if I told you that Resistance is a tool?!

 

Why Resistance is a Tool from the Spirit & Soul blog
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That pesky, uncomfortable, fight or flight feeling we call Resistance is a tool. It is a tool for growth, it is a tool for facing your fears, and it is a tool for transformation.

Steven Pressfield, the author of The War of Art deciphers the difference between being an amatuer and professional as, “An amateur is an artist who loses out to Resistance. A professional is an artist that beats Resistance, daily.” Pressfield refers to Resistance as an energy or entity that is, “a repelling force. It’s negative. Its aim is to shove us away, distract us, prevent us from doing our work.”

Someone who is mastering themselves and their work is moving through Resistance on a weekly basis at the least. Because, you see, Resistance is a sign that whatever you are resistant toward is an opportunity to grow, to show up, and to claim your own profession.

So, what does one do when Resistance arises + bubbles to the surface?

Feel the fear, and do it anyway. Acknowledge that your Resistance is a tool, a sign to keep going. To go with even more courage that you may have before. Bless the Resistance you are feeling, and grow forward with your bad self.

Claim your Resistance as an important part of your process, because it is. Feeling and acknowledging the Resistance is a crucial part of being able to move through the Resistance itself.

 

If you have any questions about this topic, share them below and they’ll be answered by Riley Reign on her weekly Facebook Live Q+A.

 

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign