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Transformation Inspirations : Keith McCoy, Author of Choose Different

Transformation Inspirations : Keith McCoy, Author of Choose Different

I am so fucking excited and honored to share today’s Transformation Inspiration interview with you, because today’s feature is so inspiring to me. Perhaps I’m a little biased, as the bad-ass you’re about to meet is my own dad, but I know that even without my bias this man is inspiring many more than he knows and that ripple effect will only continue to grow.

Keith McCoy is a husband, a father and an entrepreneur currently living in Colorado raising his family while growing a wellness business with his wife. Driven by the ideals of freedom, empowerment and radical accountability intermixed with a passion to serve whenever and wherever the need arises, his book, Choose Different is just one of many ways to increase an ever-growing global ripple.

For inquiries or speaking engagements please email choosedifferent@essentialdharma.com

 

Transformation Inspirations interview with Keith McCoy, from the Spirit & Soul blog
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Below, you’ll find a bit of Keith’s story and where he is now written in his own words, from an excerpt of his brand new book (available now), Choose Different, and then we’ll get into this awesome interview.

 

“My intention with this book is to bring to light for you what I believe to be one of the most important, if not the most important, principles that defines how I move about my days, weeks and life now. It is to share with you how I was able to come from the life described above and live this – I have been married to the same amazing woman for 20 years. We have 7 (soon to be 8) beautiful kids together. Even though I tried my damnedest in the beginning to sabotage this relationship, and I certainly caused her some pain, she stuck by me. If not for her I do not know where I would be today. I will always maintain that she was the first to teach me that I deserved to be loved unconditionally. She taught me that I needed to love myself. Because of that I learned somewhere along the line that I had to take responsibility for me; for who I was and for the consequences of my actions.

I was forced to see the ripple effect my actions would cause and to hold myself accountable to those ripples. The reality is that in every single thing we do, consciously or otherwise, we leave a mark, there is a cause and an effect. In everything we do, we have a choice. We may often feel like we don’t. And as we will discuss again, feelings aren’t facts. I recently heard a quote that aligns perfectly with this concept – Reality is often harsh, but always fair. So when you step back and look at the reality of your life, if you truly want clarity, you must remove the emotion and see the situation for what it is: The result of your choices. Each choice has a ripple, a butterfly effect, that either affects us, and those around us, in a detrimental way or in a way that benefits us. We cannot get away from this universal truth. And the sooner you can realize, understand and truly appreciate that you are in control of your decisions, and that ultimately the choices you make are the most important thing in how you live your life, the sooner you can begin to live your life by design.” – Keith McCoy, author of Choose Different

 

Now, let’s get into this super special edition of Transformation Inspirations and get on with the interview bit, shall we?

 

 

Where were you at before you transformed your life? What was your experience, emotional state, and perspective like?


I was angry and lost. Broke and living in a victim mentality. My marriage was on the rocks and my relationship with my kids was not a good one.

 

During that period of your life, what did you wish for or dream of the most for yourself?

I didn’t dream or wish for anything. I didn’t believe that was really possible.

 

When your life began to change, what cause the shift(s) for you?

I realized that if I didn’t make a change I would lose my kids. I would most likely end up alone. I decided that radical change needed to be made immediately and so I chose to stop drinking and to turn inward. To take full responsibility of my actions and to not blame anyone else.

 

What did your transformation look like for you, and how did the experience feel?

I dove into Eastern Philosophy. I read Dharma Punx by Noah Levine and Awakening the Buddha Within by Lama Surya Das. In the beginning I was more angry and confused because i only realized how asleep I had been and how asleep most of the rest of us are. In my attempts to find center I only got deeper into frustration. It took a while for me to swing back and realize that the only journey I need to be concerned with is my own. And that how aware or unaware anyone else was or wasn’t really wasn’t my concern.

 

What practice, tool, or mindset has been the most meaningful and impactful for you along your journey?

Radical Accountability. I am the product of my choices and exactly where I choose to be. Sometimes that is an unconscious choice, or there are unintended consequences of the choices I make. But they are mine and I embrace them. The wins or the lessons, whatever the result.

 

Having gone through the transformation that you have now, what would you say to your past self?

Honestly? I wouldn’t talk to my old self. I have often said that 2017 me and 2005 me would not be friends. But given the opportunity to do so I would tell him to read Choose Different and let that stand on its own.

 

Where is your life now? What is your experience, emotional state, and perspective like? 

I live a very fulfilled life. I still have unachieved business goals and things I want to do but I have clarity in how to get them and understanding that they will come when they’re supposed to and when I have learned the lessons I need to learn that will make me the person who can handle the abundance I am attracting. I have no true complaints and have learned, and still practice improving, loving what is and becoming the best version of myself possible.

 

 

Aside from my immense gratitude for my Dad, he is a living, breathing, legacy leading example of what it means to show up, choose different, and lead both the life you want to and a life that is continuously giving. If you look at your life and the state of things surrounding you and think, “I couldn’t change this if I tried, so why even try.” I hope that you can look at my dad and all of the incredible people featured in this series and know that you can Choose Different. Any moment in time can be your quantum moment. All you’ve got to do is choose. 

 

To purchase Choose Different, follow this link!

 

 

 

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

 

The Journey Is Messy, Embrace It!

The Journey Is Messy, Embrace It!

Personal + spiritual growth, it sounds so pretty doesn’t it? It is one of the messiest things a person can journey through, and I invite you to know that the mess is the exact reason it is such a beautiful and empowering process. Many of us begin this journey because the sparkle of love + light and enlightenment look so good, and then we begin and we learn that so much of this journey is learning how to rise from the bullshit. That experience is a messy one.

 

The Journey is Messy, Embrace it! from the Spirit & Soul blog
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I’d like to invite you to embrace the mess, and invite it to empower you. Because let’s be real, the mess is the only reason we can grow in the first place. How does a tree’s soil gain enough moisture for a tree to properly grow and thrive? Icy winter’s, stormy summers, and a whole lot of changing climates. The cold of the winter empowers the tree because the tree needs the winter snow to fall and melt. The crashing + pouring storms of the summer empower the trees in the same way, pushing the tree to take it’s roots to a place that will hold it stably, raining water into the soil for the tree to be nourished.

We’ve got icy winters and summer storms of our own and those seasons are messy, but it is within that mess that we learn. It is from the darkness that we can know light, and it is from our own messes that we can find our messages and our lessons.  

There will be times where you don’t know what to say or do, and you won’t know what the right next step will be. There will be times when you feel like you’re going a little bit crazy, but damn you’re so passionate about being able to grow and be as empowered as you can be.

There will be moments when your truth will trigger someone else’s fear, and you’ll likely be named, blamed, and seen as the problem itself.

The magic is though, that we get to choose. We get to choose to play small and keep ourselves safe. We get to choose to live in our passion and take on the mess because let’s be real it’s kind of fun after the fact, and we get to choose to become what we want (or not).

 

 

Is it messy? Sure. Is it sometimes like trying to catch your breath when you’re caught in the current of a wave? Definitely.

But do you remember being a kid and finger painting off of the paper and onto the table, or maybe even yourself? Sure, you got in trouble, after a minute it was uncomfortable, but damn it was worth it to experience that freedom and creation.

Life is fucking messy! But you get to choose who you are, and how you live. So live within the mess with as much grace and joy as you can. Embrace the mess, dance with it, invite it to create (with) You. 

 

If you have any questions that you’d like answered about this topic, leave them in the comments section down below and I will answer them on Facebook Live tomorrow (Nov. 4th, 2017) at 7 am. MST on the Riley Reign fanpage.

 

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

Let’s Talk About The Ripple Effect

Let’s Talk About The Ripple Effect

I’m not sure why I’m writing this, I just know that I need to. I don’t believe emotional numbness exists, but I do know that you can feel so much that you don’t know what to do with it all. Perhaps this is my way of sifting and sorting out my feelings so that I can find some clarity + wisdom to offer. Hopefully this blog can inspire + empower a positive shift within your life.

There are so many things running through my mind today. Yes, my heart is heavy. More than anything I am fired up. More than anything I feel even more driven to show up for the light. Because we know that we can damn well use it.

Last night, a person made a decision to affect others in a tragic way in Las Vegas, Nevada. For those of you that have read the blog for more than 3 months, you know that I grew up in Vegas. You might also know that when I lived there, music was a huge part of my life. I woke up to facebook notifications that 50 something of my 90 something friends in Vegas had marked themselves as safe in the Violent Incident in Vegas today. So, when someone decides to attack a space that I can easily call home (a music festival) within a place that holds so much of my family and friends, I cannot help but feel hurt. It doesn’t help that my little empathic self deeply feels for events like these all over the world anyway.

There is an image of a few friends running from the festival that particularly stands out to me. I will not share it here, because I do not want to exploit the most vulnerable and likely horrifying moments of their lives. If you’ve seen the image already, you’ll see how my feelings relate.

I grew up on music, and it continues to be a huge part of my life and evolution. I’ve been going to music festivals since I was 15 years old. I walked on that same grass. I stood by those same barricades on a yearly basis, in that same city. I have experienced some of the best moments of my life within that space, and with those people. To see them being hurt, let alone being hurt in such a sacred place, deeply deeply upsets me.

I cannot change what this person did, and still I cannot help but feel like I must be a pillar of light (even more so than usual when these kinds of things happen).

This person not only affected his own life, and the lives of those he harmed. His actions affected the families of those hurt or killed, they affected the families and friends of those people, and the families and friends of those people. My family has been a mess today, rightfully so. I woke up, read facebook, cried for a good hour, pulled myself together and attempted to start my day. When I heard my younger siblings being told what had happened, I broke down. My sisters are 8 and 6, and woke up to learn that the reason their family could barely keep it together at the breakfast table was because someone decided it was an okay enough idea to shoot a bunch of innocent people who were enjoying their lives. I can understand that bad things happen, there is balance in the Universe in some way. What I will not accept is someone intentionally influencing someone else’s life in a beyond negative way.

This is the ripple effect. Your actions have a ripple effect. Always. 

This person’s actions have caused my friends to question whether or not they will attend concerts anymore. This may seem blunt, but that is a question of whether or not to live your life the way you want to (and how you have the right of freedom to). Life is meant to be lived un-a-fucking-pologetically. Not hidden from, no matter the ‘risks’.

I love this world more than my cute little human heart is probably capable of, especially for not having experienced most of it. All I want is for the world to be a mostly peaceful and joyful place. I do not care about your politics, I do not care about your religion. I do not give a flying fuck about the color of your skin or your sexual orientation. What I do care about is your humanity. I know that this can be prevented, or healed, with awareness, understanding, compassion, and completely unconditional love. In that exact order.

“Why is this happening?” “Why/How is this the world we live in?” “How does this keep happening? In 2017!!?!?”

We have got to show the fuck up. We have got to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions if we want to heal this. We have so much more influence than we allow ourselves to know. This isn’t one person’s surface snap-decision, when you go deeper than that this is all of us.

It breaks my heart that it seems to require tragedy to unify us. Not only do we need to show up, we need to show up in our power and light as often as we can, not only when negativity and darkness try to bitch-slap us.

Everything you do puts into motion a ripple effect. What do you want yours to be? Even more importantly, how will you inspire + empower that ripple?

 

 

The light in me honors the light within you.
~Riley Reign

 

One Simple Tool To Help You Overcome A Scarcity Mindset

One Simple Tool To Help You Overcome A Scarcity Mindset

The mental state of having scarcity minded beliefs can be a hard habit to break, and sometimes it can be an emotional journey too. Breaking limiting belief patterns and freeing yourself from conditioned beliefs is definitely not an easy process, but it can be incredibly simple and free flowing if you allow it to be. I find that when one can make simple and empowering shifts in perspective, the journey of growth becomes a lot softer and more inspiring.

While it can be hard to break limiting beliefs like this, if you have the right tools it won’t have to feel as intense as you may have previously experienced, or as you might imagine it to feel. To make the mindset shift you need for moving out of a scarcity belief pattern, you must recognize first if your belief holds any truth. Regarding scarcity, this would mean that you truthfully don’t have what you need, you don’t have enough, or that you are not supported within your life in a way that you feel is sustainable.

 

One Simple Tool To Help You Overcome A Scarcity Mindset from the Spirit & Soul blog
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Now, I’d like to invite you to take a good hard look at your life and if your scarcity beliefs are even remotely truthful to your everyday experience. Perhaps you will find that in the grand scheme of things, this scarcity is true for you. Take this awareness even deeper, right now in this moment do these beliefs apply as truth? Note how I wrote right now, this is our only real experience of reality. There is only the present moment. In this present moment, do your scarcity beliefs ring true or valid in any ways?

It is easy to do this exercise of awareness and find that you maybe don’t have enough in this very moment (i.e. ‘I have rent to pay in two weeks, so no, what I need is not here with me right now.’), but this is counter productive of the exercise. Say that you relate to the example of having to pay your rent soon and acknowledge that you do not have to pay your rent right this second. Notice that if you recognize that your rent is not due right now, and you are truly and wholly only looking at what you have and if it is all that you need in this moment, you will find that yes, you have exactly what you need for right now.

It is there that any scarcity beliefs can dissolve, disappear, and the thought patterns can be broken. You have all that you need right now. What you will need later will come to you when you need it. The truth of the matter is, that you are fully and completely supported and provided for. When you can align yourself with these truths you can open your mind and energy to opportunity for more abundance, because when your energy moves from the belief of ‘I don’t have what I need’ into ‘I have what I need right now and I know that more is on the way’ you quite literally open up space for more abundance to finds its way to you.

 

This practice is not overly complex or complicated, it is just a simple shift in mindset and perspective that can free you of living in a lower vibrational state. If you can practice and actively find simple shifts like this one for yourself, your life will become more vibrant and joyful with much more ease.

 

How will you use this tool to help you overcome your scarcity mindset this week? Share with us in the comments below!

 

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign

 

Spirituality is about Realness

Spirituality is about Realness

I set out this month to write and publish a blog everyday. I had no expectation, and really just wanted to challenge myself, see what the Universe would match that energy and intention with, and see if any analytics changed in any kind of way. As you may have noticed, the last 3 days I haven’t posted a blog. Scandalous, I know.

If you are a creative of any kind, you know how difficult it can be to force the creation of something, let alone something of quality. As much as this month is about a quantity of blogs, I will not write unless I feel that a message, lesson, or tool is one of quality and universal relevance. So, for the last 3 days I didn’t write or publish anything. I wasn’t in a place to focus into the work I do in the way I needed to, and as I wrote previously this month about honoring ones process I needed to honor where I was. And instead of putting out sub-par content (not to mention life guidance), I held space for when I could focus.

 

Spirituality is about Realness from the Spirit & Soul blog
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Because here is the thing about spirituality, it’s not about being the best, the most enlightened, or being righteous. Spirituality is about realness. For example, this week I had to be real with myself and to be in flow rather than force, I needed to not write or post a blog for a few days. To not burn myself out, I had to get real. In this instance, real meant rest, trusting in my process, and leaning into the love that I would open more space for.

Spirituality is not about doing all of the yoga, meditating, or reading of books about the Universe, Source, or God. It means being connected, and trusting that connection. Perhaps for you that aligns with yoga, meditation, or learning. But here’s the catch my soul-siblings, if you do all of the spiritual activities only for face value or the image of being a vibrant little light worker, that isn’t real, and you will likely soon learn that through experience.

 

Being spiritually connected + expressive means being 100% real and authentic, not to be confused for masking your human experience realness (yes, the unpretty bits, especially the unpretty bits) with ‘love + light’. Love + light without action to actualise the intention is nothing. Often the most spiritual thing you can do, is to be in your mess. Not to dwell in it or attach yourself to it, but to be with it, and to be open to what it has to offer you.

This realness includes letting go of that which does not serve you, not to be confused with suppressing or ignoring the unpretty bits of life because they “aren’t pretty” and “therefore don’t serve you”. This journey of getting real leads to letting go of what doesn’t serve your highest good, or the highest good of those around you. For example, me writing and publishing less than raw and universally true content wouldn’t serve me, it would have burnt me out. And it wouldn’t serve you, because it wouldn’t have been as good as it needed to be. It was not of highest good, so I let it go.

Continuing to let go of what doesn’t serve the highest good of all will lead you to some pretty epic realisations. Like, “Hey, my judgement is a total waste of energy and space that could be used for way better things.”, “Wow, these assumptions I make only cause pain and/or destruction.”, “Holy f*uck, when I am inauthentic, I am disabling myself and everyone around me from experiencing me in my truth and my magic.”

So, yes, as you continue to get real with yourself and get more connected to your Source, you are lead to love and light and blessings. That does not veto you from having to experience some unpleasant to learn the lessons you are here for. However, it will bring you understanding, vastly simple and powerful action, and universal compassion. Because when you get far enough with the healing and getting real, everything will lead back to love, compassion, and understanding.

 

I would love to hear how this article has helped shift your perspective of spirituality, so please sound off in the comments below and let’s get some juicy conversation started!

 

Namaste
~Riley Reign