Life can be kind of crazy sometimes. The ebb and flow, peaks and valleys, dancing with Life, climbing mountains, falling, and sometimes just sitting still. It can be hard to know what all of it means, if it means anything at all. And it can be difficult to navigate how to make things better when they are feeling less than great. Still, hindsight being 20/20 there is so much more beauty and magic in life than there is pain or darkness. Is there a way to love both the light and dark parts of life, though? And if so, what does that even look like?
When you can understand why the specific things that are occurring in your life are occurring, you can find peace within the process. It is all in your understanding. Perhaps the only understanding that you will need is that everything happens for a reason, and that there is a lesson to be learned from this experience, negative or positive. Other times the understanding you will need will take a little bit more discovery and exploration for your own answers. This shift in perspective will help to soften the darker of experiences in life.
Once you can find a headspace and heartspace of peace, you can then move into the fun stuff. The part where loving every experience comes into play. It isn’t hard to love the beautiful bits of life, and it isn’t hard to sometimes be really grateful for them either. To intentionally hold a space of deep and consistent gratitude takes a little bit more effort. Once you achieve mastery of this practice though, your highs will feel so much higher, and that energy will manifest more positivity.
To do a little bit more intentional work, you can hold a deeply rooted knowing that the negative experiences of life hold just as much magic and light, because through the transformation those tough experiences will reward you with wisdom and trust in the process. If you let them, that is. You see, if you can hold a knowing and gratitude for the universal truth that is everything happens for a reason, and if you can ground into that you can begin to fall in love with even the roughest of chapters of your life.
It is not the easiest practice, but it is one that will gift you with feelings of safety, support, and purpose. You will no longer feel lost and broken in your periods of darkness, but rather you will feel inspired and empowered even when things are hard to sort out. You will find a feeling of peace and contentment with your growth process, and from that place you can bring your own light to whatever the negative situation may be.
While it isn’t fun to say, our darkest moments in life tend to be our most formative, no matter our age. So if you can find gratitude and knowing in the fact that you are exactly where you need to be so that you may reach your highest potential. You can find an underlying love for even the most uncomfortable and unwanted experiences. You can find a power in that space to bring forth light and wisdom that will make the journey a little bit more bearable. There you can embrace any experience that comes your way with a loving understanding, confidence and maybe even joy.
In the process of personal development and spiritual growth it can sometimes be easy to still fall into old patterns of allowing limiting beliefs to both be present and be accepted as if they are true. It can sometimes be hard to recognize these instances and patterns of fear, and it can be even more difficult to break those patterns.
It is one thing to take note of everything that holds you back, and it is another to move through those very blocks. This kind of practice can be extremely trying (if that is what you make of it) and it can also be one of the most valuable pieces of your life. It is hard work, sometimes it is the least fun thing you can do, and often it takes quite a bit of emotional energy.
I find that the most powerful and universal wisdom is also the simplest, and this tool for empowering growth is a great example of just that. Many of us are aware of the presence of resistance within ourselves, for the most part. Resistance is most often manifested as a feeling of hesitation, fear, or doubt. This presence could sometimes be interpreted as intuitive ‘protection’, but what many don’t know is that resistance is often a doorway to some of the greatest experiences of growth you can live.
If you choose to allow your resistance to be a doorway, when you acknowledge the presence of resistance choosing to move through it can be the most liberating and empowering experience. In my personal experience, it always is. This is because when you choose to let go of inhibitions and go after the thing that makes you most uncomfortable you are pushed to expand. Your mind opens, your heart stretches, and your spirit will begin to sing.
A prime example of this for me has been reaching out to some of my inspirations. As a young blogger, author and mentor I want to be where my inspirations are. I want to be in their world of light and world shifting love, awareness, and compassion, and to do that I have to connect with those beautiful people in some way. “But oh my, judgement, what if they don’t like what I do, am I worthy of knowing them?” Hello, resistance.
There, I can accept my doubt and fear, or I can see it as an opportunity to expand even more. I don’t know about you, but I like opportunity a whole lot more than being okay with living small minded. So I emailed them, the top 3 women that shifted my life and inspired my work to begin, and now inspire it to continue and deepen and grow richer in flavor. While those 3 emails didn’t get the response my ego would’ve liked, I have since worked with those 3 incredible ladies in some way and I am on my way to that original goal realizing. Can you hear my spirit singing and feel my heart’s fullness, too?
If you can lean into your resistance, meaning feel the fear and do it anyway, you will set yourself free. Taking this kind of action will give you permission to grow in the way you’ve always wished to. If you are courageous enough to face yourself, you will begin to break you own glass ceilings.
I recently wrote a blog about how to tell your intuition + ego apart, and I think know would be a good time to go deeper into the exploration of Intuition. Defining the line between Intuition, Ego, and Resistance can sometimes be incredibly difficult. I am here to tell you that it doesn’t need to be. Which is exactly why I have created this guide to tuning in! I know, it can be hard sometimes to decipher the difference between Intuition and Ego, but with some small mindset shifts and key points of awareness it can get a lot easier to not only be connected to your Intuition but to know what is really intuitive and what is really resistance at work.
Know your Intuitive voice
Your Intuition will never be upset with you. Intuition will never bully you, make you feel less than, or discourage you from doing something that truly feels good to you on a soul level. This is where you begin to tune into your Intuition from a really strong and safe space. To acknowledge that the kinder of the inner voices is your Intuition allows you to recognize its presence, learn its tone, and open up more to it’s lessons and guidance.
In a speech, Steven Spielberg recently spoke on finding yourself and said, “Your intuition is different from your conscience. They work in tandem, but here is the distinction, your conscience shouts, “Here’s what you should do!” while your intuition whispers, “Here is what you could do.” Listen to the voice that tells you what you could do. Nothing will define your character more than that.” I have to completely agree with this statement, because it is from knowing our intuitive voice and being able to follow it wholeheartedly that allows us to live in true authenticity.
To then listen to your Intuition, deeply listen, from a heart and soul space, will deepen your connection to its presence. To trust your Intuition will also deepen your connection to it. And it is this kind of connection that will help you become more aware of and in tune with your Intuitive guidance. It is work keeping that connection solid, building upon it even, but it will be the foundation of your relationship with your intuition and keeping that foundation strong is incredibly important.
This means to practice an awareness and mindfulness of what your thoughts are saying, what thoughts you choose to feed into or listen to, and what thoughts are destructive or productive. It is this kind of practice of awareness and intentional listening (or not listening) that will teach you how to follow your inner guidance with confidence. Learning the differences and pros and cons between your own inner voices will grant you a vault of knowledge that you can return to if there comes a time where you aren’t exactly sure which voice is intuitive and which is resistant or Ego.
Trust where your Intuition guides you
Your Intuition will likely take you into uncharted waters if you allow it to, meaning, if you listen to the guidance and follow it’s whispers with inspired action. This never looks quite like you may expect it to, either. Sometimes your Intuition will guide you exactly where you would think, and other times it may tell you to follow your fear and this is where the distinction between Intuition and resistance can get tricky.
This is because your Intuition is going to guide you toward your highest potential and towards an outcome that supports the highest good of all. The Intuition will always guide us towards growth and expansion rather than safety and comfortability, though sometimes safety and comfortability will be aligned, or more important depending on the situation. Which is a great reminder, to follow your intuition with confidence and trust does not mean there will not be risk or uncomfortably along the way. It is also important to know that when you are following the guidance of your Intuition you are always safe, even when you feel like you might not be.
When you are really struggling to decipher where your thoughts are coming from and trying to lead you, do a gut check. Literally check in with your body, maybe in your stomach or heart space, and try out the different options. How does each option feel physically? Take note of anything that feels restrictive and tight, and anything that feels expansive and bright (even if you’re afraid of some piece of this option it will still feel very abundant). Follow the one that lights you up and builds you up, and throw anything that keeps your presence small or weak in the trash.
When you begin to listen to, key into, and trust in your Intuition you may notice your Ego having a panic attack. The Ego will flare up, become louder, and likely fight a little bit more aggressively. The first thing to know about this is that it is completely natural and okay. The second thing to know is that if you want to successfully and diligently serve your Intuition, you now need to intentionally dismiss your Ego. This means to very purposefully take actions inspired by your intuitive guidance from a place of awareness and intention
I mentioned this kind of awareness would help keep you connected with your intuition earlier, and it is also important to note that this kind of awareness and intentionality will also be crucial to expanding your trust in your intuition, as well as in quieting the fearful voice of the Ego.
Keep listening. Especially when it sounds silly.
Your Intuition will always guide you toward the light, but sometimes its ways of doing so may seem a little… well, weird. This is when it becomes especially important to listen to and follow that guidance, because these seemingly weird experiences often become our greatest and most impactful lessons. It is these kinds of lessons you will lean on further down the line in your journey to find peace, strength, and confidence in your place when you are working on even bigger lessons and goals.
We call practices a practice for a reason, and the kinship with your Intuition is no exception to that rule. It is a journey, it takes a learning curve, and sometimes it will challenge you like you couldn’t imagine. Keep listening. Keep following the whispers of what you could do. Keep doing that which brings you and creates for others more light.
How has this guide to tuning into your Intuition helped bring you clarity, inspiration, and empowerment? Let me know in the comments below what this article has been able to bring you, or if you have any questions about Intuition and your personal relationship to yours.
Cultivating a spiritual practice is such a beautiful and personal experience, and still it can sometimes become stagnant or stale. What are we to do when we want to take our spiritual practice to the next level? How is one supposed to get deeper into their own experience and lessons from Life?
Even in the personal development and self improvement soaked society we have now, we can sometimes come up against our own walls. The first step is to recognize the difference between a wall, a challenge to overcome, and comfortability, a space of contentment. Now, there is nothing wrong with comfortability, but to live in that space for too long can create this stagnant energy. So, how can you break through the stagnancy and move into a flow of continuous growth?
Surrender to the process-
I experienced this lesson in my own meditation practice previously. After having gone to a 10 Day Vipassana retreat I thought I had gone the deepest I could have and I know how to ever get back to that deep and oceanic internal space even though I really wanted to.
I spent a few days of my meditation practice trying and trying to make it happen, to take myself within as deeply as I could. The only result I got was a surface level presence, and destructive ego thoughts. This is where I found my shift. I could not try and make this happen, I could never force it. I had to let go just as deeply as I wanted to experience my internal energy.
Surrender to the process and allow yourself to align with whatever experience you want to occur. Never try to force it or create it. This leads us to our next principle…
It is all about intention in this space. Whether you are giving or receiving energy, whether you are teaching or learning, whether you are a curious beginner or a seasoned meditation veteran, yogi, or intuitive. Be intentional in everything that you do, and especially in your spirituality and exploring such a space. I have found that when I have a clear intention, and when I trust in that intention blossoming in it’s own perfect timing, I let go of that feeling to control or make a specific experience happen.
Be intentional with why you are beginning or continuing your practice. Be intentional in why you are trying out a new tool, practice, or technique. Be intentional in what experiences you’d like to try and live or try on. Then surrender and allow the process (and the outcome of such experiences) to be what it will be.
This practice of intention in itself will bleed into every other realm of your life and bring with it quite a bit of beauty (i.e. more kindness, more giving, more love, more understanding of others, etc.) along with it.
Be experimental –
To me, spirituality is about exploration and openness, which translates easily into experimentation. Try on whatever techniques and tools you feel called to! Some will feel amazing and work wonders for your body, mind, and soul, and others will not vibe with you quite right. Be playful with whatever you are interested in and inspired by, and when something doesn’t work quite right, move on. It may not be that it didn’t work or wasn’t right for you, it may be that it was not the right timing for you and you may try something more than once.
This experimental and open mindset and intention will open up opportunity for you to experience deeper realms of yourself and your being than you knew existed. It can also teach you what you are ready for, and what you’re not. Which can be incredibly insightful as to where you may need to work a little harder to grow in that area of yourself.
For the entire month of August I am publishing a brand new blog every single day, and you may have noticed that today’s blog went live a little bit later than most of my blogs thus far. This is because I had to honor my own process – and that’s exactly what todays blog is going to be about.
In our society we are not very kind to ourselves, and we tend to not give ourselves enough room to fully experience our lives. Including the less than pretty parts of it. We can live so much more fully, however, if we allow ourselves the space we need to fully honor where we are. That doesn’t mean when we come face to face with pain, emotion, or change, that we cling to it like our lives depend on it. It means that when we come face to face with pain, emotion, or change, that we allow ourselves the space to feel it, allow it to move through us, and we allow ourselves to experience our own process.
There is divine timing for everything in Life. What we often fail to see is that sometimes it is our divine timing to experience some less than magical feelings and experiences. Sometimes, the only thing Life expects from us, is for us to sit with wherever we are + whatever we are feeling. Not dwelling in it, but being with it.
Often times when I take on a new mentoring client, for a single session or a long-term mentorship, their first session ends up needing to be rescheduled for a later date. I find that this is nearly always because a client needs to learn from experience about their own divine timing, and they need to learn how to honor their own process before we begin working together to make the shifts they desire within their lives. Not only does this help them grow gentler with themselves and their experiences, it frees them from the expectation they hold on themselves so that they can be more receptive to the guidance and work that is offered to them in a mentoring session.
As much as a client may be sorry about rescheduling, I am never upset about it. I trust in their divine timing for being able to receive the guidance they need. I trust in their divine timing to be open to that guidance so that they can receive it. I trust in their process, and I want them to honor that just as deeply as they want to honor my time + energy with a mentoring session.
When we can experience the blessing of a magical mess that life is more fully, we can learn and grow with more strength and wisdom to carry us.
I promised to publish a blog everyday in the month of August, and I am. Yesterday, when I would have written this blog, I needed to breathe. I needed to be alone, to sit with where I was for a bit, and to just be there. Learning how to be in that space and allow those feelings to move through you rather than break you is a huge gift in itself.
How will you honor your process today? I’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas in the comment section below.